? Excuse me? I wanted to ask permission to go to ???Excuse me, can I go to sleep? They may seem strange, however, many women (and some men) say them daily.
Dependent personality disorder is based on ‘asking permission to ask permission’, that is, it is a psychological or emotional state or imbalance in which one person relies heavily on the other, especially their partner, without it you cannot meet your needs.
- This problem usually begins in childhood.
- Although its causes and “triggers” are unknown.
- As much as we think it is more common in women.
- Does it also affect men?More than we thought.
Addiction personality disorder is also characterized by submission to others and a great fear of separation or abandonment from those who love them most, so is it an excessive need to care for someone?And this can happen in different contexts.
According to the Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV), to be diagnosed with this imbalance, the patient who arrives at the appointment must have at least five of the following aspects:
? Difficulty making very simple daily decisions, such as not knowing what to do for dinner, which way to take or what clothes to wear.
? You need to rely on the advice or approval of your decisions by one or more people in your nearest circle.
? Problems taking responsibility at the main moments of life
? Difficulty talking to someone else, especially when he disagrees with them, due to the deep fear of being disapproved or left behind.
? Inability to undertake projects voluntarily or do things “your way” because a lack of self-confidence makes your reasoning affected, not having future dreams or desires, and satisfying those next to you.
? Lack of energy or motivation to do something you like (or like), especially if you’ve caused a problem or discussion in the past.
? Urgent need to feel protected and cared for by someone, regardless of their pride or dignity, as well as what to do to get that physical and emotional protection.
? Uncomfortable or helpless to be alone at home, because he feels a great fear of being abandoned or not being able to cope with his own fears.
? Urgent search for a romantic relationship, from the end of the previous one, so that you are not alone and receive the support, passion, care and dedication you think you need.
? Unrealistic concern about the things that often happen around you, all based on fear of abandonment and lack of protection.
? Decision to be passive with respect to interpersonal relationships, that is, take no action on a decision within the relationship or family.
? A feeling of helplessness or disruption when you end a relationship and find yourself easily hurt or hurt by criticism or disapproval of those around you.
Some of these behavioral criteria for addictive personality disorder can be confused with those of other imbalances, such as anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression, panic attacks, and certain phobias.
In order to recognize someone with this disorder (or even recognize it within ourselves) it is necessary to analyze a pattern of behavior that develops over a long period of time, perhaps years, dependent personality disorder is not something that lasts days or weeks, but something that is classified as “sustainable”. Recurrence doesn’t come back, it doesn’t change, and it’s part of the personality. If not treated, it may increase.
We should pay close attention to the signs detailed above, as we often do not realize what our loved ones are doing or what we can do with ourselves.
If you think your partner, friend, or relative has more than five of the characteristics of addiction personality disorder, you may recommend starting therapy.