A few months ago the story of a teenage girl who asked her mother for a justification for her late class, who initially surprised by her daughter’s wooden face, took advantage of her originality to justify the delay due to a bad teenage ruling.
The mother, Nicole Poppic, posted on her social media that she had written to her daughter to justify her delay in this way: “Is this what happens when someone is late for their own bad decisions and asks me to write her a note to justify?your delay?
- The message the mother wrote at the school read: “Cara arrived late this morning for a condition known as a teenager.
- It affects millions of adolescents in the country and there is no known cure.
- The symptoms are many.
- But this morning precisely.
- “It was the impossibility of getting out of bed.
- And I also felt the need to hold your mother to account.
- (?) Please call me if you see any other symptoms ?.
“Adolescence is a new birth, because with it are born more complete human traits. -Stanley Hall-
The psychologist Stanley Hall, considered a pioneer in the study of adolescence as an evolutionary stage, describes adolescence as a second birth in which a kind of recapitulation of childhood experiences occurs, adding a series of crises and learnings.
Adolescence is a stage that lasts between 12 and 20 years and during which a lot of changes begin not only physical, but also cognitive, emotional and existential, so, at that moment, the tendency is to wonder how the world works and how it works. what role we have in it.
This presupposes a real revolution in all its aspects, because in this period, children are immersed in an emotional and cognitive roller coaster that leads them to behave in a “revolutionary” way.
Hormone rebellion and socio-emotional change of position is why the world calls this stage adolescence.
One of the most common questions among parents is why, if the teen seems to have developed the ability to think like an adult, does not act as such, this question has a clear answer: cognitive maturity and emotional maturity generally do not go hand in hand. in hand.
This is why it is customary to consider that, in many ways, the adolescent remains emotionally immature, being able to define himself as fluctuating, explosive and capricious (characteristics usually related to adolescence); however, it is by this cognition or thought- making maturity that we are able to initiate the search for a personal identity or essence.
In general, teens see their emotional skills developed to the point of being equivalent to those of adults, however, although they rely on them, it is not based on the adult experience, so it focuses primarily on analyzing this emotional world that should absorb as much as possible.
It is common for the adolescent, in the midst of his emotional torment, to assiduously assert negative emotional states and high-intensity emotions that merge precisely because they manifest themselves together.
This emotional activation imposes an overload and makes the teen not able to adequately understand many of his emotions at first, however, we must take into account that all these experiences will help to understand the complex complex composed of his emotions, thoughts, actions and psychosocial situation. .
Millions of parents around the world will no doubt identify with the situation we mentioned at the beginning of the article, which we call adolescence. The teenage son or daughter, in his or her quest to maintain a rebellious and provocative attitude, begins a rebellion against the norms established by parents or throughout society.
You should know that for the teenager it is also a very confusing step, because he is unable to find himself while constantly looking, reinventing himself and changing, stability shines through his absence and, at first, there is no light at the end of the tunnel.
The complexity of family relationships in adolescence can be explained by the following defined factors (with the exception, of course, of individual differences):
At some point in this stage, adolescents are often treated like children when we ask them to behave as adults, ruining their vision of maturity and safety in themselves in a certain way and perpetuating a state of conflict between themselves and society.
This, in fact, is a phenomenon that requires attention and can be defined as a desynchronization, basically it is the precocity with which personal development occurs when the integration of the person into the adult and professional world occurs late, which prolongs adolescence and often. exacerbates family conflicts.
Adolescents, by definition, fluctuate emotionally. His mood swings are more sudden and his moods more extreme and negative more often. If asked during the day, they usually report more negative feelings than adults and tweens.
Adolescents are even more fluctuating, intense and negative if they are not popular among groups, have poor academic performance, or are embroiled in family conflicts such as divorce. Adolescence, even taking into account individual differences, is a step with great chances of being “emotionally” complicated. “
Adolescents, in their desire to go against the rules, are more easily involved in illegal, antisocial, reckless or risky behaviors; However, unlike family conflicts and soul disturbances, risky behaviors are more likely in late adolescence and early youth, which can be explained by impulsivity and a tendency to seek new sensations.
These two factors, as well as those mentioned above, help us understand that we are facing a critical period that requires the supervision and advice (cautious and variable distance depending on the circumstances) of the child’s caregivers.
It is necessary to clarify that adolescence is a stage in which the person is imbued with what is in his environment, so we must take care of that environment, there is no magic wand that helps us to cope with this step, but it is true that Strangely it seems, adolescence requires a preparation at the family level as it does when a baby arrives home.