There are lines of thought that preach messages against adversity, ensure that it is avoided at all costs and emphasize that a happy life is a life without difficulties or obstacles, they also promote the idea that any difficulty is a source of discomfort and must therefore be eradicated.
Making generalizations on the dark side of adversity is a mistake, whether we like it or not, adversity is part of life, suffering exists and denying it will not make it disappear, in fact, difficulties are a precious reality, which gives body and meaning. to existence.
- “There is no one less fortunate than the man whom adversity forgets.
- Because he has no opportunity to prove himself.
- “-Seneca-.
Suppose there is one person who has never faced adversity. That for one reason or another, he only had happy moments. He never found any obstacles and always got what he wanted. What would be the consequence of such a life?Certainly, the result would be a personality devoid of sensitivity with the presence of selfishness, and even a great difficulty in valuing what we have and setting long-term goals.
Just as adversity results in bitter and sometimes difficult to overcome moments, it also brings enormous lessons. Those who know how to discover and learn from them are also often the ones who lead the most meaningful and fulfilling lives.
For about three decades, the philosophies of positivity began to be known. Most of these lines of thought originated in the United States and have become very popular around the world. There are hundreds of bestsellers and countless seminars, conferences and events on the subject.
On its most radical side, this type of philosophy practically imposes happiness as a way of life, promotes the idea of blind and nuanced optimism, which must prevail over all circumstances, is an invitation to escape any negative aspect of situations, people or people. life itself.
It is therefore assumed that people must live in a perpetual state of joy, good humour and euphoria, as if there were no sufferings, contradictions, losses and reasons to feel sadness, irritation or frustration in life.
These kinds of positions, especially when extreme, are an invitation to self-deception, it is also a source of guilt, because this type of Nirvana is rarely achieved, most of the time we condemn ourselves to question our inability to access. the fulness they proclaim in books and conferences.
Basically, we all want to live an existence without the great inconveniences left by losses, or without the bitterness caused by betrayal, heartbreak or the impossibility of achieving goals that seem decisive to us.
If death didn’t leave this slay of pain behind, or if we could achieve everything we set out to do, surely everything would be easier, but why think that the simplest is the best?
First let’s say adversity is absolutely inevitable. The very fact that we are all doomed to die already marks a deep limit to our entire existence.
However, much of life’s knowledge lies in the ability to face adversity. Look him in the eye, recognize him and assume it; Do not act as if you do not see it, it also assumes the part of responsibility that corresponds to you in the difficulties you face.
Both Eastern philosophy and various Western philosophies have given a different place to failure, frustration and adversity. They insist that the secret of everything is not the fact that painful events happen, but in the perspective we take to deal with them.
You suffer much more from not accepting adversity than in doing so, the refusal to admit that we have reached a limit and that a desire is impossible does not mean that the next step is to think that you have been denied all the good things in life. us forever.
We know each other better in times of adversity, we better understand life and others when we endure the rigors of suffering in our skin. By taking a perspective on learning and humility, bad times help us develop character. They renew us, they invite us to positive change. They also help to give more meaning and intensity to the many happy moments, which certainly await us along the way.