New types of relationships are flooding the social sphere; polygamy, open relationships and relational anarchy are just some of the most recent definitions; however, a new term has emerged that anticipates those already mentioned and promises to give us something to think about: agamy.
This concept, which appeared in 2014, abandons the idea of suede (union, marriage) to focus on a new social and relational model, who argue it suggest that it goes beyond free love (but without a sense of exclusive and castrating need). .
- Agamy is the prevention of a certain stereotype of relationship.
- Which we call romantic or loving.
- To include the rest under its standard.
- So it defends the non-establishment of relational models.
From this perspective, the concept of love that prevails in our society is understood as an ideological subsystem at the service of patriarchal and class interests, that is, this feeling has been imposed on us as a form of alienation by the system that controls us. We are all expected to want the same thing, to classify some outdated definitions as logics that often enslave us and make us unhappy.
Many agamy practitioners do so out of desenchantment. Some of them are fleeing relationships because of the high toxicity they have unfortunately felt. Jealousy, possessiveness, abuse, and suffocating addiction are often dangerous symptoms of a love that is not.
On the other hand, there are those who prefer to enjoy total autonomy and freedom to live their sexuality as they wish; critics say this jeopardizes the survival of traditional love; an analysis of the basic principles of agamy can help us understand this new social society. Model.
According to agamie, sex is not considered sacred, exclusive to relationships (whether monogamous or polygamous), it is a natural and healthy part that must be lived, exalting itself as a form of freedom and self-love.
Agamy replaces sexuality with eroticism, evoking the germination of new types of non-specific relationships that transcend heterosexuality, in that sense you should never do anything you don’t want, let alone feel obligated.
From this point of view, romantic love and its idealization are a chimera, jealousy, possessiveness and obsession have no place in rational human beings, these negative feelings harm us and our well-being. exchange for harmonious sociability.
Thus, oppression should never be linked to the concept of love. Reason, common sense and natural impulses prevail over mermaid songs and their corresponding drama.
Agamy proposes a redefinition of the idea of family, considering it “the formation of a group of individuals with consensual relationships of eroticism, society and confluence of interests”. Also, for agamy, fatherhood is much more than having a child. respect and affection should be the only things that are judged when evaluating parents’ abilities.
Followers of this philosophy flee social conventions and want to start a family adapted to their needs.
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Polygamy supports the idea of having two or more partners, and some relationships are more stable than others. Agamia avoids the concept of a couple because it considers it empty and lacking in realism. Nor does it have anything to do with polygamy, non-binding sex. sporadic relationships: it’s much more complex.
In our lives the relationship with the people we know is fundamental, this philosophy allows us to establish any kind of connection with the people around us, without the need for a label or definition.
Agamy, rather than an ideology or a way of life, puts on the table a recurring theme: the way of living relationships, even if this term is avoided, any kind of contact with others involves establishing a relationship, denying it will not. disappear, but we can always respect the relationships of others.