You don’t do it right, this color scheme isn’t good, you don’t know how to defend yourself, where are you going?Will you accept this position? They’re criticisms I always hear from all these people who tend to constantly criticize us, or maybe you’re the one who criticizes you?
If you’ve ever been criticized or criticized, you know that it reveals insecurity and lack of self-esteem, which we often refuse to see, but that’s the truth. You know what? Criticism is often not true, but praise or envy disguised as something negative.
“Remember that unfair criticism is a disguised compliment. “
-Dale Carnegie-
We often ask people to criticize us constructively, or these same people call their criticism “constructive,” as if it would cause less suffering.
Criticism is never constructive, because it hurts us, it damages our ego. We can think of them as positive, but deep down we feel pain. You know what’s behind it all?
? Corrosive criticisms, the purpose of which is to make the person who issues them feel better. Maybe she’s very angry and needs to download her on someone. Even without guilt, you can become the target of many criticisms; unnecessary and negative criticisms, the purpose of which is to harm anyone who crosses their path.
? The destructive criticisms, which end our self-esteem, overwhelm it, make us feel useless and believe that we know nothing good, those criticisms distress us, focus us on the negative and cause us suffering.
? Criticisms that hurt; just as we are sensitive to praise, we are also sensitive to criticism, so it is very important to have confidence in ourselves, to have confidence in one’s abilities and to take care of self-esteem, so no criticism can hurt. We.
All of this exists behind constructive criticism, which doesn’t really build anything, it just destroys. We are self-critical and we know everything we do wrong.
Don’t ask anyone else for criticism to avoid hurting yourself. You know what you need to change to become a better person.
“Face your path bravely, don’t be afraid of other people’s criticisms, and above all, don’t be paralyzed by your own criticism. “
-Paulo Coelho-
Gather all the criticisms you received and understand that it was not a good idea to ask for constructive criticism; some don’t make sense.
We are surrounded by criticism because people look at us closely, everything we do will be criticized. Maybe people are bored and need to criticize others, or they’re just looking for meaning in their own lives.
We must discover our strengths, learn from our mistakes, and not attach so much importance to what others say.
In addition, many criticisms are only the result of boredom; people need to talk about someone and they have no intention of hurting.
Gather all the critics, learn from them and visualize a very long scale. When you climb the steps of this staircase, you’ll find that instead of feeling bad about criticism, you’ll feel much better.
“Won’t you be able to diminish your flaws by criticizing mine?
-Anonymous-
Climb the ladder by visualizing the passage of all critics, learning and growing with them.
We always see the negative side of things, but just as we learn from mistakes, we also learn from criticism, which help us grow. What are you waiting for to build your own ladder?
When you criticize him vehatically it’s because the other sees in you what bothers him in himself.