When we talk about emotional immaturity, we are talking about a lack of development in the emotional field. Think of the path of maturity as a process that requires development; encouragement of the relationship with emotions and learning to overcome the difficulties they impose.
In addition, another way to stimulate this emotional maturity is in our memory and in its most sincere content: our memories, today we will talk about that possibility. As Enrique Rojas points out in his article “The Immature Personality”, the characteristics that would denounce such deficiencies are emotional instability, self-knowledge and lack of responsibility, among other points.
- Today.
- Given the enormous amount of material we have on this subject.
- We may feel a little intimidated.
- One may think.
- “I want to improve the way I manage my emotions.
- But where to start?”Who can help me? That’s why today we bring you a good way to start this process: simple and valid for all those who are interested.
To make this journey of maturity we recommend you enter a state of meditation, this is what some therapists propose in their consultations, for this you can sit or lie down, close your eyes and focus on your breathing.
Then visualize yourself walking along a path, there can be many flowers, leaves or it can be an arid path, the important thing is to be attentive to everything you see, notice the air and the sun that warms your body up there. .
Now, at the end of the road, visualize a small hut with door, enter and you will discover the stairs that descend. Head towards them and start going down, from that moment we will find three floors.
On the first floor, there will be a door and an older person next door, she will look at you with a smile and give you an address: choose one of the memories you will find, all are experiences that have marked your life in a negative way.
There are many options; most will have been with us for some time, but without being treated properly. They’re with us, but we don’t stop to analyze them properly.
Take a good look at the shelves in the room and, when you’ve chosen the souvenir, go out the door.
Some negative memories are experiences that have marked us and are the reason why, in the present moment, we have several problems or limitations.
Once you’re gone, give God the good bearer and keep going down the stairs, so you’ll get to the second floor, where you’ll find another doorman and another door, in this case they’re positive memories.
Go through the door, look at all the memories in the room and choose the one that suits you best, once this is done, go out, say goodbye and continue up the stairs.
In this journey of maturity, we will reach the top floor, there you will find a door. When opening it, we will find an idyllic and different place for each person. Nature? Snow? Animals? It is a place where you will feel comfortable and will give you a lot of peace.
In the center there will be a path where you will have to lie on your back, at this point take out of the backpack the souvenirs you choose, look at them carefully until you realize that good and evil are part of you. part of your story.
Once you’ve been in this area of peace, take one last look and go back to where you come from, on the way leave every memory in the room with the corresponding emotion that has caused you, come out again, take a step back and open your eyes when you get to the beginning.
If you have chosen a stone as a negative memory, it can allow you to reflect on the anger that you are harboring and need to let go of. She will be in the appropriate room.
The goal of this journey of maturity through memory is to allow us to accept what happened to us, integrate and manage our emotions, no matter if you are thirty or forty years old. Your emotions can still be those of that sick eight-year-old boy who suffered so much at the time.
Therefore, it is positive that we make this journey of maturity when we need it, if you have already adopted meditation as a habit, doing this exercise will be much easier, otherwise you may have a hard time relaxing and letting yourself go. .
The important thing is that if you need help, don’t be afraid to ask, psychologists are there to help us with activities like this and many others, so that we can grow and solve what still hurts us. Now we are adults, responsible for the emotions we must mature in ourselves.