The end of a relationship is becoming more common, a few decades ago, and even a few years ago, almost all couples were together for life, despite the disagreements they might have, today things have changed a lot and we can say that we are at the opposite end of what happened before.
We have gone from much to supporting and tolerating, to not supporting anything that goes against our thinking, nor does it benefit relationships.
- Unconditionally accepting the other person.
- With their defects and virtues.
- Knowing that the perfect human being does not exist (and that he will not exist) is the gateway to a satisfactory relationship.
- Of course.
- You always have to specify certain limits.
- Which we should not allow Cruz.
- As is the case of mistreatment.
- Cancellation.
- Breach or amputation of part or all of our individual freedom.
When a relationship ends, feelings of desolation, emptiness, and loneliness remain present for a long time. We have gone through the famous duel, which hurts, because it is pain that will finally rebuild us.
Grief involves several stages, already well known to all: denial, anger, depression, acceptance . . . and we can go through all or just a few. There are people who do not properly manage their duel once finished, which causes an extension of pain for a long time, generating an emotional blockage.
Leaving a relationship is a process that can be extremely painful, you’ve been with this person for days, months or years, you’ve shared your whole life with him, you know her so well, you know everything about the person, he shares friends, he’s fond of his family, and all of a sudden everything’s gone, almost overnight. How can you not feel pain for that?
This person, who was so present in your life, was the most important thing to you, is suddenly gone and you may never see her again. Of course, it’s hard and a lot. Your soul breaks into a thousand pieces, you feel very lost, you see no way out and the feeling of emptiness invades you.
Despite all this, life goes on; the world will not stop because your romantic relationship is over and therefore there is no choice but to go your way.
The first thing you need to know and accept is that you’re going to feel bad, very bad, the rupture, as we said, hurts. But you must also understand that this is a normal and desirable process. Do you need to regret this loss, be angry at the world, scream if you feel like it?Every time and when these behaviors don’t last long.
You may feel incomplete, half your life has passed and you will never come back, you may never find someone like that person again, you think you are a failure, etc.
You have to understand that all this is just ideas, thoughts that come out of your head and are really responsible for your suffering, the more you immerse yourself in it, the more they will grow and the more they will make you suffer. feed them.
After going through the period of mourning that we talked about earlier, you will start to see things differently, time is our best ally, but also our mind, when we are able to think realistically, there is no time when time passes and we continue to feel incomplete, empty, thinking that this person was the great love of our life Etc.
Therefore, we must force ourselves to think according to reality and not maintain super romantic ideas or perform dramatizations, which will only cause even more damage.
The person must stand up and stop thinking in an extreme and rigid way. The love of your life doesn’t exist. No being that was your soul mate was born, not even half your orange, none of that. What really matters is being comfortable with the person you chose to share your gift with.
But aren’t you alone or empty? Around you, thousands of people are willing to meet you, in addition to the ones you already know, they can do it if you don’t lock yourself up too much.
Even if you don’t want to, you have to force yourself to go out with your friends, meet with your family, call someone you haven’t talked to in a long time, try to find fun projects.
Gradually, depending on what you do, you will also feel more comforted, in addition, when you go out and spend time with other people, can you end up meeting someone interesting or can there be several opportunities, be it work, travel, leisure?You never know.
Récupérez-vous. Es you may have stopped doing things that used to make you very happy, it’s time to resume these activities and start feeling satisfied with them, often in a relationship you end up abandoning yourself. and, after the breakup, it’s recommended to find yourself. Our self-esteem will thank you in the end.
Goals make sense of our lives and make us move forward in a positive way.
The attitude of not s stoping, but moving forward, not stagnating in our misfortune or ruminating negative thoughts, will finally win the battle against this deep pain, then we will be strengthened. After all this, the other person will become a memory, which may be more or less pleasant, but it will only be a memory.