If something we avoid feeling, when we flee prisoners of fear, it is undoubtedly emotional pain, we struggle not to face painful situations and end up being anaesthetized by emotions, what happens is that this anesthesia is global and has its consequences, such as the renunciation of love.
Have you ever had a hard time loving, entering a state where you don’t know if you really have the ability to feel love?Don’t worry, it’s also very normal for other mortals, it presupposes a state of confusion, with a subtle fear of the possibility of becoming insensitive.
- Fear not.
- You have the ability to love.
- But you simply build a wall to defend yourself from all the dangers and possible fears that invade you.
- If all the warnings have been issued it is because they are based on experiences of other painful situations and you are consciously or unconsciously trying to prevent them from happening again.
“Even a happy life cannot exist without a measure of darkness, and the word? Happy? Would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by” sadness “. It is better to accept things as they come, with patience and serenity. – Carl Gustav Jung
Although suffering and pain are not the same, we try to avoid both experiences, however, avoiding pain is not a good idea, as it is a natural process that we have to go through in situations that sadden us and cause us discomfort. At one point, we all passed it and fed it, when all we had to do to get rid of it was to enjoy the pain for as long as necessary.
Pain makes us grow and develop and suffering stops us, so it is important to differentiate them, entering pain means living the experience, feeling the emotion to finally let go and release it naturally.
Suffering appears with the denial of pain and emotional detachment. We prevent our wound from healing and healing, we stop, turning our pain into unnecessary suffering. Giving us permission to feel the pain, without necessarily immersing ourselves in it, allows us to face the experiences and continue. move on, as well as preventing us from standing still in suffering.
“Pain is an inevitable aspect of our existence, while suffering depends on our response to that pain. “- Alejandro Jodorowsky-
There are such painful moments that we have gone through that we have developed a specialized mechanism to disconnect from our emotion, from our body, and we were cold not to get into what we have already suffered, this can even lead us to dissociation, when we are unable to accept reality because of the emotional impact it represents.
When there is the possibility of an unpleasant situation, similar to the one we have kept in our history of experiences, our survival system protects us, behind this artificial protection hide our most agonizing fears, such as fear of abandonment, loneliness and rejection.
This insecurity and coldness in certain situations that put us on alert can determine our lives:
Emotions and feelings are all we have, not to mention that we are human, there is no better solution than to give yourself to the experience of living, this means daring to feel pain, if we want to feel love in fullness.
Anesthesia is not selective: if you apply it so as not to feel pain you will disconnect from yourself, your emotions and feelings, from love and, ultimately, from life itself.
These feelings and emotions are our precision compass, because they tell us what we feel at each moment, they let us know that we are not empty shells, but rather that we are filled with an extraordinary inner world, a cosmos before which we have two options. : make the most of it and participate in the experience or sever any relationship with it.
It is up to you, and no one else, to be vulnerable or protected, and to step on and dare to dive and swim down the river of life or, on the contrary, stay on the shore, to observe from afar how the current passes without you participating in it, without taking advantage of the opportunities that only abandonment to experience can offer.