Anger is an emotion that seduces our inner monologue, which takes us away from thought, speech and action, a defensive weapon that, if misused, can be counterproductive and even cause great harm if we let it grow.
We generally do not like to lose control, but it has been repeatedly shown that we often cannot avoid anger, probably because it is a natural tool of evolution for men to react to perceived injustices.
- The fact that a child is queeving insistently and vehemently that his brother has taken away his toy is.
- In essence.
- A way to assert his interests and prevent his integrity from being harmed.
- The problem of this emotion will arise if the child does not abandon his protest.
- But he cannot expect to get results either.
In other words, if we focus solely on “taking off my toy,” our physiological and cognitive system will quickly be dominated by a spiral of negative feelings and thoughts that don’t solve the situation.
We do not like to show that we are angry in public, because we understand that this implies a failure of our personal and emotional characteristics, we are afraid to express it and that is why we end up showing anger only at home, accompanied by people who know us and, therefore, we hope that we do not judge us so much for it.
This unjustly treated emotion is misunderstood by our society. Still, as we have emphasized here several times, the expression of anger gives us information about what bothers us, gives us the opportunity to get to know each other better and seek balance.
There is a main reason why we do not like to express anger: we take it as anger or as an uncontrolled and uncontrolled expression of our problems; in other words, we equate popping and screaming with frowning when something bothers us.
But we can say with certainty that anger is not like anger, because it is the consequence of mismanagement of what angers and haunts us, you turn a grain of sand into the beach by not getting rid of the grain in time and that is where the circus is mounted.
Because? Because we turn isolated facts into a continuous focus of our attention, preventing us from undoing an emotional snowball that spins and spins, getting bigger and bigger.
When we realize our feelings and emotions, we are able to take it a step further to manage them and turn them into uses, not damage, let’s say we step on the brakes when we talk, because we release much of the emotional burden. that promotes the arrival of negative moods that potentially threaten our balance.
If we return to the example of the child angry about the theft of his toy, it will be easier to see how normal and adaptive it is to promote equality through protest and the demand for the restitution of violated freedom.
But, as we have already said, once anger arises in the face of a physical or psychological threat, it is important to face those feelings and emotions that are born with us, otherwise we will find ourselves dominated by thoughts and actions that only bring with it discomfort without any concern to solve situations.
When we realize through our senses that an injustice has been committed or that someone has disrespected us or something or someone of our own interest, our limbic system (amygdala and adjacent structures) receives a spark that moves all machines.
That is, our central nervous system is activated and, with it, our body and mind prepare to begin the action, in turn, the neocortex is responsible for calculating and initiating another action, this more or less adapted to the situation.
Thus, the limbic discharge involves the release of catecholamines (norepinephrine, epinephrine and dopamine), which helps us reason quickly and decisively, at a time when activation is great, we can get very red, our cheeks can warm up, our pale joints and our minds are thousands of kilometers per hour.
On the other hand, the activation of the branch of corticosteroids favors prolonged activation that predisposes us to a longer action, this hypersensitivity is able to dominate our mind, which tends to feed on the menu of negative spiral thoughts.
That is, any small noise will startle us, creating rage after rage and disabling us cognitively more and more, because we are unable to reason properly, which leads us to set aside thoughts that would slow down the exponential increase in rabies.
As we have seen, the key to properly managing anger is to stop impulses, which can be done in two ways:
Is that what makes us say that anger is an emotion that seduces our inner monologue, promoting more than convincing arguments?That what made us angry is the source of all evil.
Hostile thinking leads to hostile thinking, and a chain of anger accumulates until it becomes so great that it becomes anger, so if we wonder about these thoughts that take the form of categorical reasons, we can calm the mental scene that promotes excessive discomfort.
Thus, little by little, the fire can disappear when we stop giving it firewood to feed it, helping us to contemplate the situation away from the bars that once dominated us, this is the first step towards emotional well-being.