Many people repress and deny their anxiety to avoid it, the discomfort is so embarrassing that they often don’t think twice and try to combat that feeling, yet it’s still there. It does not disappear or decrease in intensity, so experts recommend that anxiety be seen as an ally and not as an enemy.
Thinking about anxiety as an ally is something that many people may find difficult at first because they are unaware of the benefits it can bring to their lives, and they are afraid to try to make some changes.
- The concept of Anxiety.
- Has it been extensively treated relatively recently.
- We live in an ephemeral society.
- With a lot of stress.
- Routines.
- Obligations and very standardized habits that make it difficult to connect with ourselves.
We live “outside”, connected to the outside. A changing exterior, full of unforeseen events and uncertainties, often beyond our control, this way of living the race prevents us from stopping and wondering what we really need.
We live on autopilot, without questioning anything, installed in negative complaints and thoughts, getting to think: this is not the life I chose.
Not facing this fear of uncertainty, he settles in a comfort zone that is not comfortable or healthy, but at least it is something we know.
So, this famous? Is evil better known than good to know? this leads us to conformism and therefore to anxiety, because we do not do or experience what we need. What we think, feel and do is not aligned.
Believe it or not, we can do something. In our hands, we have the power to make changes, even if they frighten us.
Anxiety has a bad reputation. This is normal because it causes unpleasant symptoms such as tachycardia, dry mouth, chest pressure, headaches, stomach pain, shortness of breath, among others.
Like other emotions, the more we fight it and take it as an enemy, the more it will stay with us in our daily lives, so experts recommend that we try to change its image and meaning, trying to understand and understand it. live it as an ally, as someone who “plays for us. “
Although this may seem impossible at first, it is possible to have anxiety as an ally, for this we can change its concept little by little.
We see anxiety as a feeling that warns us that something is wrong emotionally (and that we can stop and correct it), that is, we can treat it as a kind of alarm, as a set of physical symptoms that alert us. and warn us that we are not doing what we need, that we can go against ourselves, without listening or paying attention to our environment, hurting ourselves.
We will understand anxiety as a warning that we forget ourselves and that we attach too much importance to the outside world.
As we move away from the fight against anxiety and hear the message she is trying to convey, we stop suffering, she is no longer the witch who curses us, but the one next to us to remind us that we must take better care of ourselves. of our lives.
Let’s take an example: if we work long hours and do not allow ourselves to have time with family, couple, friends or alone, it may be because we are very demanding and believe that when we stop, we will feel guilty.
To try to stop, the body will send us unpleasant physical signals that we must step on the brakes, in this case, the message of anxiety is that we must listen and take care of ourselves, rest and have free time to recharge.
Stopping is scary, though, isn’t it? We avoid doing this because we know that if we connect with our interior, we can see that there may be something in our lives that we do not appreciate and that we will have a responsibility to change, and these decisions are often difficult to make because they involve changes and uncertainties. That’s why we think it’s best not to see because “what the eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel it. “
What if anxiety doesn’t warn us? We would continue to do things so as not to look at ourselves and the physical and emotional consequences would be greater than anxiety, we would not stop and end up doing more harm.
Let’s listen to our anxiety to be realistic and not deceive ourselves. We can take it as an ally; We will receive it and appreciate the benefits it can bring us, only then can she leave.