Children learn to apologize by watching their parents do the same, however, not all families are able to apologize to their own children when a situation requires it, when circumstances require it, it is often forgotten that it is these types of cement that build the best, happiest and most respectful bonds.
The communication style is a reckless aspect of many family dynamics. Many times we are not aware of the large number of codes, invisible rules and psychological marks that we project in our family with what we do, say, or even more, with what?Don’t we say ?.
“If you make a mistake, prove that you may have the humility to say “I’m sorry, ” I was wrong. “
Does the way we interact build the roots of harmony or, on the contrary, plant the seeds of unhappiness at the center of our nearest relationship?This question certainly deserves reflection. Anyway, it’s clear that we all make mistakes and “need” to apologize. Therefore, identifying times when excuses are needed also shows emotional intelligence.
This dynamic, this healthy and uplifting practice, is also fundamental in the upbringing and education of our children. Is it a very safe way to transmit to the little ones a system of values to have a closer vision of the human being, to conceive himself with faults, but worthy of knowing how to ask forgiveness to improve our actions, take care of our links?
We all make mistakes. No one has come into this world with material that will do so safe from mistakes, mistakes or misunderstandings, so in terms of creation and education no one ignores failures, inappropriate practices, poorly focused approach, recklessness, etc. Now the key to all this is not about making more or less mistakes with our children, but about how we handle these situations.
Identify the error and recognize responsibility by saying “sorry?A child is also educating. However, our adults of “culture” “do not always approve or support such acts, as if parents themselves were afraid to break the myth of infallibility in front of their children. Some even fear losing authority to the child.
This is what many parents think. This is the case of the father who feeds his children with incredible promises that they then do not keep; of the mother who ends up yelling at her son for nonsense, so she can’t handle the anxiety she brings from work she can’t leave at the door.
Apologizing is a basic practice of coexistence, it is the right way when a problem arises that we as adults are responsible for. Therefore, few acts contain such a valid expression of empathy and recognition of the norms of coexistence; standards that we, as adults and children, are obliged to respect for the common good.
Many of us have spent the day saying, “I’m sorry?for the most trivial acts. We do this when we meet someone, when we forget to give way to other people on the bus, when we forget to bring the book of our partner or co-worker . . . Yes, it is important to practice this art in minor acts, but it is also essential to use it with the people closest to us, with those we love the most.
Love, affection and affection must be cared for and worked. To learn to apologize is to create familiarity, is to create a scenario to make children happier from appropriate values. These are its main advantages.
In conclusion, every family must understand that excuses are a psychological tendon that benefits everyone, we will put it into practice without fear, without disappointment.