The appearance on social networks has become almost an obsession, you could even say that there is a whole lifestyle around you, how many times do we take a photo just to put it on our Instagram or Facebook, or another app like that?
The cell phone is part of us. Thanks to him, we recover our fabulous day-to-day life for others to admire and fill our publications with likes, but what is behind this relentless search for attention and admiration?Is this a new way of seeking glory?
- Without a doubt.
- This is a phenomenon that requires reflection.
- The goal will be to understand if there really is an emotional need behind this.
- The appearance on social networks has become a topic of debate both at the popular level and in the scientific world.
Social media is tools that can be very useful both in professional life and in social and personal life, on the one hand, they serve to be closer to our loved ones and share our experiences with them.
We post a photo of a special moment, write a reflection and even share a song or another that we like, or we can also generate a healthy discussion. In addition, the same tool can also be used as an advertising medium for small and large companies, freelancers and emerging projects.
The problem arises when we make our appearance on social media the center of our lives, our main motivation to be and then not only photograph the places we go, but we go to places specifically to be able to photograph them.
We wear the T-shirt of the image we have created and want to show it to the world, we do things for others to see what we are doing, some people even lose their lives when falling from high places or buildings to try to take a good selfie.
What drives us to make social media a lifestyle?To answer this question it will be important to talk a little about self-esteem, self-esteem, according to Massa (2013), is linked to the value we think we have. can be divided into two components:
Low self-esteem influences how we relate to others. The Lupez-Villaseor team (2014) ensures that people with low self-esteem experience social relationships with anxiety and fear of rejection.
In this way, we have reached a key point in understanding the obsessive use of social media, low self-esteem and fear of rejection mean, in many cases, the urgent need to seek acceptance from others.
“The worst loneliness is not being at peace with yourself. “- Mark Twain-
Since the rise of Buddhist psychology, the quest to fill the inner void has been a very relevant issue, because we feel incomplete and frustrated, in many moments we begin to seek happiness through external stimuli.
In the case of social networks, we seek it in the form of attention and recognition, in this way we create false happiness based on external opinions.
“You can search throughout the universe for someone who is worthy of your love and affection, but that person cannot be found anywhere. It’s you?
This type of happiness is fragile, among other reasons, because this desire to please, to perfect all the edges of your life, ends in many cases by removing the identity of the person.
We may be criticized or simply that others do not like what we propose, in this way our self-esteem will be damaged even more and even less.
Another factor that influences is the volatility of other people’s opinions, what we love today, tomorrow, we may no longer like it, so if one day we have many followers, that doesn’t mean that tomorrow we will always have the same thing. Number.
What’s going on? We take our happiness and give it to others, instead of cultivating one’s happiness and taking responsibility for it, we give it to others to make us happy, but in reality our happiness depends only on ourselves.
Not everything that shines is gold. Everything we see on social media doesn’t reflect reality, people just show what they want to show. The appearance on social media is quite relative, no one will post a photo crying or feeling sick.
If we look closely, most of the photos we see come from trips, parties or events that are of some relevance to each of us. Look what he’s got! Look where he went, it’s great. Look how good he is? We can’t make the mistake of thinking that other people can be happy and healthy 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Phrases like “Wow, how’s my friend? Guys, is my friend still doing interesting things?They are heard very often. However, if we were in fact present in the daily lives of these people, we would surely find that it is not very different from ours.
We all have moments of sadness and moments of joy, it tells us that we should not believe everything we see, in addition, when we see someone in a happy moment, we must be happy for that person.
In conclusion, we can emphasize that our happiness is in our hands, so we cannot let it fall into the hands of another’s opinion and depend on the admiration of others.
On the other hand, when we look for references, we should not look at social networks, because maybe you are in a worse situation than you were, a world where negative emotions do not exist cannot be considered real.
“Joy is not in things, it is in us” – Richard Wagner-