With the lifestyle we lead we are increasingly busy and timeless to dedicate ourselves and the people we love most, in this context it is our children, who are the main affected, who see how far their parents are moving away. of them.
When we think we have children it is important to analyze whether we can bring them economic stability and find an affirmative answer to take this big step, but we forget that before economic stability we have to analyze whether we can and want to share quality time. We can give away an impressive room with many, many toys, full of books with fantastic illustrations, but if there is no one to play with or with whom to read them, it will not make any difference.
- A child gives us a lot of joy but also brings many challenges.
- Questions and other questions to which we sometimes have no answer.
- But to which we have to answer one way or another.
- For this we must listen to them.
- Know them and pass them on our affection.
- Make them understand that they can count on us.
- This can happen with your grandparents.
- Your brothers.
- Your uncles.
- Your babysitter if there is one.
- But the most important thing is the recognition of the parents.
It is normal for the time we spend with children to decrease when faced with a major project or a large workload, the problem is that when we have free time to enjoy it, we end up walking away and throwing it away. .
This is a very common problem. We believe we never have time, when we really should see how we can be more productive and make the most of the hours we have for ourselves.
Well, is it true that as parents, our work is also inside the house: pack clothes, prepare food, bathe and help children?It all takes time, but we still feel exhausted and what we want is to rest.
However, our children deserve attention and we must make an effort to give them some of the time we sometimes need to devote it to whatever we want. It’s complicated, because we always think we don’t have time. But if you think about it, is it more than one sometimes?I don’t want a “powerless. “
Maybe we think everything we’ve said so far isn’t that bad, or that’s what we want to believe. The truth is that we can cause our children a syndrome called absent father syndrome, in which even if the father is present, it is emotionally inaccessible.
Our mere presence is not enough for our children, we have to be there for them, to talk, to understand them, to share them, to dream together, it is very important to take this into account if we do not want our children to start. Develop behaviors we don’t like, such as the following:
Believe it or not, all these problems that we try to solve by shouting or punishing have only one origin: ourselves. We do things very badly and we don’t realize it. We must not be absent parents, parents should not be present.
The problems described above are already serious and difficult to solve, but did you know that the development of our children’s brains can be seriously affected by our distant behavior?This is not a random statement, it is the result of a study conducted by researchers at the University. Sichuan.
In this study it was concluded that children who spend a lot of time without their parents, without maintaining real and close contact with them, without establishing an emotional connection, without actually spending time together, have a delay in brain development.
The brain remains immature. Emotion-related areas do not develop properly and, as a result, there is a poor response to stimuli that children have not been exposed to.
But you might think that this has to do with emotions, when in fact it’s about much more. The study also found that the absence of parents can cause serious learning problems as well as a much lower IQ.
“Give your child a hand whenever you get the chance. Will it get to the point where you’ll never stop?-H. Jackson Brown-“
Sometimes there is no difference between a parent who spends time with his children and one who almost never sees them, the important thing is to know how to approach them, share, talk and be careful, the problem with adults is that we see our concerns as more important when in reality there is nothing more important than being there for our children.
It is not only the problems that, as we have seen, can arise from a distance, but also the precious time that we are wasting and the irresponsibility of not being there to teach our children how to take their first steps in this world. a time when we were little, didn’t we need the presence of parents?