“We have all been emotional destroyers at least once in our lives. Taking things personally made you an easy victim for these people. If you accept the emotional waste of others, it also becomes yours, but if you don’t take things personally, it will be immune to all the poison, even if it’s going through difficult times. ?Dr. Miguel Ruiz
Emotional vampires are normal people, but laden with negativity who feed on our energy and good humor, they tend to hypnotize everyone with their charm and cordiality, transmitting great confidence, but as long as we enter our lives we realize that they increase themselves. -estimates by taking advantage of us, by manipulating.
- Most of these people carry with them a selfishness similar to that of children (caprichos.
- Tantrums.
- They want right away).
- And they consider their needs to be the only and most important.
- Never make mistakes.
- Admit their mistakes and never feel guilty.
- They do not value the effort.
- Support or affection of others.
- They want everything for their own benefit.
- Never offer help and tend to find the worst excuses.
- They usually use what they know against us.
- They don’t usually follow rules or rules.
They can behave like amazing companions and great workers, as long as their needs match ours; however, when the opposite happens, they become destroyers of our mood, until they reach us completely. We are obliged to live daily with several of them (partners). , neighbors, family members, etc. ) Psychologist J. Berntein, a specialist on the subject, summarizes several types of characters:
Antisocial vampires are fun and contrary to social norms, lead exciting lives and are accustomed to the immediate realization of their desires. They can’t offer anything in return.
Histrionics always want to be the center of attention, turn the everyday situation into a spectacle and never recognize their mistakes, they are the ones who never think of others and consider themselves perfect and talented, being known as narcissists, they are dangerous vampires who take advantage of you, and when they reach their goals they release the typical phrase: “I don’t remember having met you. “
Security and control addicts, obsessive compulsive, can be dangerous if their actions interfere or interfere with their sense of control and order, they want to impose their perfectionism on everything and everyone, believe in punishment and censorship as valid strategies to shape the behavior of others. In some cases, they even enjoy the suffering of others;
Finally, there is a type of paranoid vampire that seeks a hidden meaning anywhere, for them nothing is transparent and everything generates mistrust, they can hardly forgive.
The best option to escape subjugation is to get away from them, never forgetting that we are the ones who must always take control, they will try to change our rules and attitudes, until we change our values and even move away from the people closest to us. They will use all their negative potential, confusion and fear to control us and decrease our positive energy level, we must avoid them without fear, without giving up the inner strength that makes us take courageous actions and makes us less vulnerable.