Chaos addicts are more common than you think. They are always at least fifteen minutes late, so they are late everywhere, breathless. They apologize and blame the traffic.
They are also desperate at the end of the month when bills arrive and for the umpteenth time discover that they have bought more than they could afford and now have a serious problem. They lose everything, they never find anything, they always miss dates, a signature or whatever. They go hand in hand with error.
- They’re thugs.
- Too.
- He’s the kind of person who fights for everything.
- They blame the trader because he’s raised the price of cookies.
- Voluntarily recruits the taxi driver to drive very slowly.
- Even if congestion doesn’t allow him to go on.
- They’re constantly arguing about something or someone.
Chaos addicts are extremely disorganized, your closet is a scary space where next to a sweater there can be an orange or under a bunch of misplaced clothes there may be the keys to the door, which were lost two months ago. mess, they complain and deny everything. They say they don’t have time, they’re full of problems, that organization is something for the “unemployed. “
Any addiction is related to a certain degree of dependence on a substance. In the case of chaos addiction, this substance is inside the body and is called “adrenaline. ” In a literal sense, chaos junkies are actually adrenaline junkies. seek and generate situations that lead them to manufacture this substance.
Chaos is defined as disorganization, inconsistency, disorder, or dispersion; each time a person faces such situations, he develops defensive responses, distress, or preparedness for action or attack; at the same time, these reactions are accompanied by a number of chemical changes in the body. The most important of these is the production of adrenaline and cortisol, stress hormones.
Many people want to free themselves from stress, but the addicted chaos, on the other hand, feels a fatal attraction to everything that causes anxiety. There is a pleasure in living this tension and this state of permanent defense.
The problem is that when the threatening situation resolves or disappears, the organism slows down or disrupts the production of these substances, so what is happening is a state of depression, which the chaos addict can only overcome by getting into more trouble, generating new conflicts. or make mistakes again.
In general, each addiction plays the role of hiding another deeper conflict that has not been resolved, but which continues to gravitate in life insistently, this compulsive tendency to create new problems is nothing more than a strategy to draw attention to external problems. , to those problems that reproduce as a virus and always require an urgent solution.
Anxiety is an imprecise form of fear and that’s because it doesn’t seek to find an object to direct that feeling, that is, you feel fear, a sense of threat, fear of what might happen, but it’s not possible to define what this danger is, or where it is, even if it really exists. You just feel an invasive fear.
Generating chaotic situations is one way to unconsciously achieve two goals: to outline an object on which anxiety can be directed and let that feeling emerge with all its strength, live it and, apparently, direct it towards concrete actions. The defense. But as the real problem remains dormant, it is necessary to restart the cycle from time to time, which ends up becoming a lifestyle.
Overcoming any addiction, including this one, is not easy, the most important thing is to recognize what is that deep conflict that makes you want to get into trouble all the time, but to get there you have to go a long way of exploration, which can be done by means such as meditation or therapy.
At first what is recommended is to exercise the ability to be alone, calm and silent so that the body stops resisting the lack of tension and, therefore, the agitation disappears. In addition, in this way, we will facilitate the path to consciousness to begin to open up and for these old sufferings that have not yet been cured to arise.