A past full of negative experiences can weigh a lot, instead of learning from these experiences and enjoying not repeating them, many people use them as spl. that makes it difficult for them to progress or, worse, as an anchor that won’t let them out of the harbor.
Are you emotionally attached to the negativity of your past?Does this attachment interfere with your current adult life?
- Next.
- We’ll see signs that may indicate that you’re emotionally attached to a negative past.
- So you know where to start releasing and unloading all that emotional burden you’re carrying.
If you agree with what happened in the past, you will have no problem talking about it when the opportunities arise, if you have overcome a negative situation, talking about it does not involve any trauma, but it allows you to reaffirm yourself. The theme also allows you to share what you have learned, however, if you are still emotionally attached to this pain, reliving it means reliving suffering.
We must express our emotions, both positive and negative. When these emotions make us uncomfortable, we tend to block their expression, thinking that this way we can avoid the pain they cause us.
But the strategy is counterproductive. When you suppress emotions, you cling to them; However, when you express them completely, it is easier to let them go; denying and suppressing negative emotions creates an attachment to them.
Pulses come from emotions. When you suppress emotions, even if you don’t express them, you always react to them, by not letting them flow these emotions concentrate and can cause you to lose control, feel an anxiety that you don’t master and react impulsively because it hasn’t solved these problems. This leads to bad choices, addictive behaviors, and feelings of pain and guilt.
Repeating the same errors is a sign of negative attachment to the past. Making the same bad choices over and over again is an important warning sign that something negative in your story still influences your current life.
When you are emotionally connected to a negative past, you always retain feelings of pain and pity, resentment and/or fear towards people connected to that past, these unresolved feelings can appear at any time, in response to an external situation or in your own. Thoughts.
This is very common in family gatherings. When you get stuck in the negativity of your past with them, when they’re with you, you don’t feel yourself, you feel like you still need to adjust to their expectations for you or that you’re not what they want. This means that you don’t act the way you normally do in other environments, it means you don’t speak honestly (or just don’t talk at all).
Family disapproval is often widespread, ingessing fear of disapproval in general, even among friends, partners, and even foreigners. This general fear of disapproval is rooted in the original dynamics of the family and even the school.
It is very common to treat children in the same negative way that they have treated us, surprisingly it is possible to recognize it when this happens and the person knows it is bad. It appears as a pattern from which it is difficult to detach, as if trying to justify the unjustifiable.
Many people who have not overcome the negativity of their past end up marrying someone who faithfully reflects what their father or mother was, and since they cannot root out that past negativity, they are not able to perceive quickly.
Many believe (unconsciously) that the other person will change, and therefore things will change, or that with change it will be possible to overcome persistent pain.
When, in the past, family or even school acted massively, it was because their principles were based on excessively rigid rules, which are now followed almost automatically, those strict rules create internal boundaries that we do not always know how to identify. and they also tie us to the past.
You may think these rules protect you, but they can limit your adult life. Interestingly, these rules can determine your options, whether we are aware of them or not.
You don’t have to relive the past to get over it. This may be the way for some, but it is not always necessary or beneficial to feel emotional memories of what has already happened. The key to overcoming these injuries is making new decisions. Today.
You need to recognize the influence of the past and learn how it continues to affect you; Talk about it and don’t repress it, only then can you make conscious decisions that will lead you down a new path.