Over the years, life can become increasingly routine, even tedious. The same working hours every week, the same activities to do in your free time, similar ways to spend weekends?Gradually monotony takes up space and, once established, rarely disappears. Have you assessed whether you are still able to be surprised?
Adding a peak of excitement, pleasure and surprise to the day to day is very beneficial for our mental and emotional health. Now to be surprised is no easy task, how to do it?Read on and find out!
- There are people who are often overwhelmed by their feelings.
- Their lack of perspective makes them moody.
- Depressed or pessimistic; at the other end.
- There are people who are aware of their emotions.
- But who passively accept them.
- Always have an attitude of resignation and indolence.
In the middle of the two poles, there is the terrain of people able to surprise themselves, those who base their lives on acceptance, awareness and mastery of their feelings, their emotional life is richer, they are more self-sufficient and they are more confident.
The amazing is rarely in your comfort zone. We all have a natural tendency towards the known, so, in the face of the unknown, we prefer this terrain where we feel comfortable and protected, having nothing that bothers us, we do not need to leave.
However, for personal development to occur, it is convenient to break down this comfort barrier and see what is beyond. Every step you take outside your comfort zone will give you a new perspective on the world. something different, new, attractive or rewarding.
“Self-pity is not something that gives me any pleasure. -One man-
To surprise you, you don’t need to practice practices that jeopardize your health or your physical or psychological well-being, just test the limits of your mind. The answer is that your brain prefers to be conservative and maintain its automatisms and heuristics, its maxim is the principle of cognitive economy or the law of minimal effort, it is not trained to remove pre-established barriers.
Therefore, before you decide to dare or leave something as it is, your mind will always give you more reason to choose the least risky and simplest option. In other words, he will sabotage his desire to outdo himself. For example, if your dream is to be a singer, the first thing you’re going to do is try to get it out of your head. For this you will use all kinds of excuses: you are already very old, it is very difficult to become someone in this world, you are not really prepared, would you be disappointed?
This is because we are programmed to protect ourselves from dangers and maintain an alert state to disturbing stimuli, so leading the conscious mind to the positive is one of the most difficult tasks, but its benefits outweigh the effort.
Ask yourself what you’ve always wanted most. What you regret or didn’t get. The most important thing is to look for reasons why you didn’t make those past dreams. What stopped you?
If your attitudes or prejudices are in the answer, it is very likely that with effort you will find a way to surprise yourself, remember that the brain always makes a decision that requires less effort, your will is the one that can fight conformism.
Climb the dance floor or rock at karaoke. Read a book in a day. Do a new activity, such as camping or diving. Try exotic food. Put on a stylish set of clothes. There are many ways to test your sense of ridicule.
Let’s leave thoughts like “What will you think of me?” I would never do that, “How crazy!?If you want something to change, do it differently. Try activities that have fun, motivate, and stimulate your mind. “. It’s possible that the best is to come.
If you’re embarrassed or worry too much about what they’re going to tell you about, get back to the beginning of the first problem: stay in your comfort zone, this paralyzes your efforts to surprise you.
Children have an enviable ability to be surprised with almost everything, everything catches your eye. However, your innocence and desire to explore diminish as you grow up, but it’s always possible to summon the child you carry in you to rediscover yourself.
In fact, when we are small and can choose from many toys, we usually choose what we really like, our choice is not subject to any external influence or interest, so if you want to be surprised, put aside your prejudices, links, obsessions and taboos. Get your childhood moments back.
Dare to think. Let yourself be surprised. Let your imagination run wild and visualize yourself anywhere in the world. Create the life you want, not the life you want. Let the geometry of your consciousness collapse for a while. Be creative, innovate. Everything that hasn’t been invented is probably in the future.