Relationship is an interesting subject. In every way, but today I’ll just write about magnets. Everyone wants to have someone to share their life with, although there are very few exceptions, there are some who are happy alone, but the vast majority dream of meeting a special person.
And people often find it, but most people say to me, “Was I unlucky?”Yes? I have a rotten finger and so on I don’t need to get into the life of each of these people to see a great difficulty: they don’t care about the other, rather they build a very high fence around them so as not to lose it. They are relationships based on egocentrism, possession, jealousy, dependence, everything but affection.
- Love simply becomes a great fear of losing.
- The lack of trust.
- The dangerous idea of considering a loved one as a personal good.
- Any relationship based on a form of fear inevitably generates great suffering.
- And then the relationship is no longer good.
- It starts to disturb.
Oddly enough, there are many couples who maintain this kind of relationship over time, get hurt and, worse, stay years, sabotage self-esteem, shatter their feelings, become emotionally ill people.
There are people who need to dominate the relationship, it indicates a lack of self-confidence, so it is necessary to look for strategies and defense mechanisms to incapacitate the other person and have them under their control. lose and an anxiety that distresses, because you can’t live in a small world, where there are only two people.
The need for control and dependence are inhibitory elements that cause imbalance in the relationship, it is clear that romantic relationships are complex. But in reality, the complexity lies in the people themselves and not in the relationship itself.
As the world is a world, people suffer because of relationships, emotional skills are lacking to know how to demonstrate adequate reciprocity, that is, many times the person gives too much, many complain of being suffocated, others who give too little, No I know how to transfer affection, among other difficult situations.
The great strategy to solve these problems is self-love, self-esteem, self-know-how and acceptance, but most people wonder how they can love themselves, how to demonstrate this affection, how to accept themselves, how to recognize that they are unique. and special?
Good self-esteem, good self-care, and emotional balance will allow anyone to remember who they shouldn’t consider, who shouldn’t care, who doesn’t deserve their attention, let alone their sadness.
In relationships that work and bring happiness to both, there is no need for control because there are no fears, fears, insecurities or desires to violate the personal space of the loved one, emotionally balanced people share their fullness, do not bring shadows of selfishness or emptiness that others should fill.
Healthy relationships are taken care of and, in turn, allow everyone to think about their own growth, feel free and be part of a common project at the same time. The feeling that someone asks us, controls us and does not consider that we harm our happiness.
The important thing is to have attitude, defend the territory, take care of rights and, above all, to listen to the voice of the heart demanding respect and space, it is essential to take care of yourself and take care of yourself. Estimated. The other enters our lives to add, share, contribute. Before loving others, love each other.