Sometimes abandonment is not a sign of cowardice, but of courage. Let us consider that abandonment does not always mean a lack of courage, but quite the opposite: it is courage, prudence, emotional intelligence, not only that, in certain circumstances of life, the courage necessary to finish is greater than that necessary to continue with the same story.
Solving can be a good solution and sometimes it is the only way out, and that does not mean submitting to anything or anyone, nor lacking strength as the dictionary says, but giving in to some adversity is generally perceived by others as a negative attitude that categorizes us as fragile and cowardly.
- Almost by inertia.
- Many of us categorize.
- Label and confuse attitudes that can explain the same behavior.
- This is the case between being a coward and being careful.
- Either one can explain why someone abandoned a project.
- But if we are in this project.
- Will it be easier to explain his departure from cowardice to avoid cognitive dissonance? a lack of synchronization between what we do and what we think? uncomfortable for us.
Virtually every new situation, responsibility or change carries a fear, less or greater, and we all know that fear when we are there, however, there are people who, beyond that fear, think that continuing is a bad choice for them, and that is why they are not cowards. In fact, they are often brave because it might be easier for them to continue, and the trick didn’t do what others expected.
“The cautious one is moderate; moderate is constant; the constant is unwavering; the unwavering lives without sadness; He who lives without sadness is happy; soon the prudent is happy. “
Coward is the one who gets carried away by fear, the one who does not want to take risks, the one who listens inside, denies it, the one who accepts misfortune as the price of comfort, etc. someone who arrives, waits or gives up at some point in their life because they think it’s an intelligent response to their well-being.
Surrendering is sometimes a precautionary sign: considering the potential risks of following where we are and then acting this way so as not to suffer other unnecessary losses, not just that, changing when something doesn’t work is a courageous attitude.
Perhaps change can only happen by throwing in the towel and deciding to take a different course, because there is a thin line separating the act of surrender from the act of recognizing that it is enough: if you have already given everything and do not see results, it is good to give up and start over.
“Because it is in the order of things, that is never lacking, when you try to avoid one inconvenience, hire another. Caution persists in recognizing the nature of the inconveniences, in accepting the least bad and the good. -Maquiavel-
You can’t force something that doesn’t work, can’t you force someone to feel something they don’t feel, or try to accomplish something we’re not prepared for formally or psychologically?Goals sometimes come at a bad time or are impossible: that a certain thing doesn’t work is also part of the mystery of life.
If we have already tried and fought but we are aware that it no longer makes sense to continue doing the same; Abandonment is, therefore, a gesture of fair and noble consideration in which we consider the most intimate “I”.
The best energy we use is the one we use to cultivate the art of taking care of ourselves or taking care of the people we love most, on the other hand, the energy we have is limited, in this way, wasting strength in an unnecessary way. and an unprofitable way is to deprive yourself and your loved ones of some of that energy.
“Never, never, ever, ever, ever, never, not in the big, not in the small, nor in the fundamental, nor in the trivial, never give up, except to the convictions of honor and common sense. -Winston Churchill-
Fighting for no reason to sustain yourself is like fighting the wall: we make a greater effort and we only reap weakness and fatigue, meanwhile, we have lost many other things that we really have at our fingertips.
In short, if you find yourself in a situation where the continuation of a project, personal or professional, is not an option, perhaps it is time to ask yourself if it is not better to abandon it. Remember that giving up is not bad, on the contrary, it is always an acceptable and in many cases intelligent option that differs greatly from failure.