I know that sometimes we are very tired, saturated with so much information and responsibilities, all our frustration eventually turns into frowns and harsh words that we throw at those we love the most, many of these people are young children, children who do not understand why of our irritation: do we exchange? and affection for harsh words, full of useless adjectives that cruelly refer to what they “do or always are”.
How many parents find they’re throwing words at their children like “you’re a fool”?Or even idiot The person who sees this behavior from the outside is surprised by such an immature attitude. However, that parent may not know how to handle such a high level of demand. Could it be that at some point we don’t act like this anymore?
- We have to fight.
- Children are not to blame and do not deserve to unload our problems on them so unfairly.
- They are starting to live and everything we tell them today.
- Whether a positive or negative message.
- Will remain forever in their hearts.
Often, it is not children who go through “a difficult time,” but parents who feel overwhelmed and unsure how to handle pressure.
Parents believe that a cry or punishment is more effective than a good conversation because the results are immediate, but forget that in the long run there are undesirable side effects, children cannot defend themselves, feel humiliated and will discover a feeling called ‘feeling’.
They also learn by example: if someone stronger than them can use violence to control it, they can also act the same way with children younger than them.
At first, talking to children with love about bad behavior may not seem effective, but it doesn’t. A good conversation will always be more important; young children, even if we don’t believe them, understand much more than we think.
If we explain what they have done wrong, how they should proceed, and end the conversation with a hug, we will teach them that making mistakes is human and that the important thing is to learn from mistakes. a clear message: “I trust you, next time I’ll do better. “
Tenderness, love, compassion and comfort will be etched into the heart of this little person we love so much and still has much to learn. This message we are trying to convey, children will understand throughout their lives; We may not see an effect as immediate as a beating, but in the long run we will see good results. We will see how our children educate their children and we will be proud of them.
Talking to children with love will show you a path where love, attention and understanding will be very present.
Do we want our children to be afraid of us?That’s not the kind of learning we want to convey. Can a negative word or insult cause insecurity, low self-esteem, unnecessary fear?I know we’re too busy, but we’ve given birth. to a person who deserves all our attention, our love and all our good deeds.
Aggression will encourage more aggressions and behaviors that we don’t want, for example, if our child doesn’t understand our cries, he will learn not to listen to us, however, if we practice emotional discipline, where there are subtle and delicate calls to attention, the results will be much better. It’s hard to do if our parents didn’t treat us that way. Without realizing it, we will repeat the same pattern of behavior.
Many times we do not want to act in the same way as our parents, but it may be because we do not stop to think about how we treat our children, it is very important to think about it, perhaps we feel nostalgic because we have not received all the affection that our parents could give or did not know how to demonstrate properly.
This is all normal. No parent has an instruction manual indicating the best action plan, despite this, it is necessary to be aware of everything the child is going through in childhood, because speaking fondly will affect him positively and express his frustrations about him. negatively affect him.
Even if you’re powerless, even if everything around you is negative, don’t have enough to talk to your kids with affection.
Everything that happens in childhood impresses us deeply and interferes with our future. Children are born predisposed to love. Get to know them, love them and look for that point where we can get your attention so we can teach and guide them properly. You have to do it out of love, not fear. Talking to your kids is the best decision.
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