Although we spend a lot of time fantasizing about being happier, we rarely make the necessary changes to achieve it, this fact has a powerful reason: fear. What if what we do now doesn’t help us be happier or, worse, can spoil what we have?
The fear of disappointment, of change, of losing what we have, however small, functions as a barrier that not only prevents us from being happier, but creates a great sense of frustration that makes the current situation even worse. Don’t you think?
“Only one thing makes a dream impossible to realize: the fear of failure. -Paulo Coelho-
Many people create routines that, although they feel unhappy, give them enough security to think that even if their life is not entirely satisfying, at least there is some control over it, so they disguise laziness or comfort, which is panic, and complain. about life as if control were in the hands of other people, but it’s an illusion. You don’t control any of that.
This false sense of security brings out the fear of doing what we really know we need to do to feel better and happier, but the fear of not reaching, that the feeling is not what we expected or the?Certainty? That happiness is just an illusion, it paralyzes us.
This fear consumes us in the absence of action, which forces us to think about what we could do, what we could achieve, but thinking without doing things saddens us even more.
“Inaction leads to doubt and fear. Action produces confidence and courage. If you want to overcome fear, don’t feel at home, but think about it. Go out and get to work. -Dale Carnegie-“
To have a better life, you must overcome the fear that holds you back, let go of frustration, and trust yourself a little more. We have the potential to be happier, but we have to go beyond the limits we set ourselves. As? Let’s look at below:
We are constantly receiving messages about what happiness is and how to achieve it, messages that are generally contradictory and meet a multitude of criteria, often derived from consumerism, marketing and advertising or ways of seeing life.
But what is happiness? It is something that everyone must define according to their knowledge of themselves and their own values. In fact, often the fear of being happy is actually a fear of breaking with the mold that seems to be defined by the environment and society.
If you feel trapped, you should ask yourself if the happiness you are looking for is really what you want or just what you think you should want, if you clarify your goals of happiness it will be easier for you to identify the steps you need to take to achieve this.
You didn’t come into the world to suffer. You deserve to be happy, but to say that we deserve happiness is one thing, to believe it is another, perhaps your childhood experiences or the memory of previous relationships have made you believe that it is difficult to be happy, that you do not deserve happiness.
Lack of self-esteem that can result from traumatic or negative experiences can create barriers when it comes to chasing our dreams, but the past is the past. There are still many opportunities ahead, the fear that something similar to what you have experienced will happen again should not paralyze you, but give you strength, in the end, having a difficult time in the past will help you enjoy and enjoy every little detail.
We are often willing to put everyone’s needs before our own, leaving our happiness on suspense, however, to have the energy to care for others, it is necessary to make our own happiness a priority.
That’s why we need to find ways to create a better balance so that we can focus on our own goals, as well as set healthy limits with those around us. If someone criticizes you or tries to make you feel bad thinking about yourself, don’t do it. Don’t worry and feel guilty. Only those who love each other can love others.
The fear of get stuck in the way is normal and natural, especially when walking without direction or knowledge. To feel safer, prepare the way, plan and analyze, in this way you will complete some of the uncertainties, while reinforcing the goal.
Think carefully about the barriers that exist or may arise, how to overcome them, and how you will handle problems. Remember that every change requires sacrifice. Think about the benefits of giving up certain things or habits and think about how you will handle the difficulties that this waiver entails.
Often, when we contemplate change, the idea of thinking that we cannot do what is necessary paralyzes us. The idea that we cannot succeed from our internal critique brings us back to the starting point.
No problem. That’s normal. When it comes to making important decisions in life, we all feel fear and doubt, it’s time to respond with confidence. If you’re determined to get something, you’ve come a long way to get to that point, remember: you have to give up something to move on. Releasing your fears is part of the plan.
If you think you can be happier, you can be happier. You just need to believe this and believe in yourself.