We discover new sexual orientations that depart from the normative heterosexuality that has prevailed in many societies for centuries, today we naturally talk about homosexuality, bisexuality or pansexuality, especially among younger generations, the idea that diversity is freedom and enrichment begins little by little. encouraging everyone to define their particular form of sexual orientation.
Sexual orientation includes sexual, erotic, emotional or romantic attraction to a specific group of people, defined by their gender, if we stick exclusively to the part of the attraction, we will meet a group of people who begin to identify as a group. talking about asexuality, or people who are not sexually attracted to anyone, which doesn’t mean they can’t love someone else or even fall in love.
- “Imagine how a teenager can feel that he has no sexual attraction to anyone and.
- At the same time.
- Believes he has to adapt to one of the known sexual orientations.
- ” – Lacia.
- Author of?Diary of an asexual.
If we understand this total lack of attraction as an anomaly, we will try to answer a question: why did this happen?, you might think that they may have had a bad experience: a conditioning so strong that any idea related to sex begets rejection.
After these experiences, the person, who needs protection, no longer has a sexual desire in relation to others, but this is not asexuality. Justifying this reality in this way means distorting and not understanding what is really going on, remember that asexuality reflects a lack of interest in sex, not fear or dislike, it just seems that this is an activity that does not catch their attention. as well as many other activities do not attract your attention.
They’re not motivated to have sex of any kind with anyone Does this have anything to do with religion?With a particular culture? Again, we reiterate our denial, it is simply a way of living and understanding relationships that is different from most people.
I tortured myself for many years trying to find someone to awaken that desire and I didn’t care if I was a man or a woman, after years and many failed experiences I decided to accept myself as I am. I discovered asexuality on the Internet and that day my conflicts ended. -Lacia, author of?Diary of an asexual
If you want to know a little more about asexuality, there are many interesting videos and texts on the Internet that reflect how people live in a society where sex plays such an important role How many people are asexual?How many don’t know, how do they live their intimate relationships?
It is important that we talk a little about the world of the known relationship, when we talk about an asexual person, who does not feel this erotic impulse for others, do you have trouble finding a partner?The truth is, there’s no problem.
Asexual people can fall in love. They live romantic love, they love hugs, kisses, they want to feel that connection with the other person, but they have no carnal desires, they can live as a couple without any problem, although it is worth mentioning that there are also asexual people. who are not romantic.
Asexual people often look for asexual partners, however, what if they fall in love with someone other than them?No problem. Asexuals do not reject sex, they are simply not attracted to people in this regard, it is the same case of the person who does not like apples, but who ends up eating to please the other who insists that it will do him good.
We mention that asexuals have no sexual interest in others, but that does not mean that they do not have or do not enjoy sexuality, the sexes can even masturbate. One thing is sexual desire and another attraction to someone, however, they do not like sex as people who do not fall into asexuality, for them an orgasm is far from the best in the world.
“The idea that you can meet or know someone and be sexually attracted to him is something that a lot of people experience and everything is fine, but it doesn’t happen to me. ” – Evie, polyamorous and asexual-
Is it necessary to give visibility to this non-sexual orientation?That some people may understand. Because love and sex don’t always have to go hand in hand, and this is just another example of that.
Images courtesy of Elose Heritier, Jeremy Combot.