For many people asking for help is a test, because we have many misconceptions about the meaning of this act.
In the competitive world we live in today, it is common to think that if we ask for help, we will be condemned to do that favor, we believe that everything is done with the hope of getting something in return.
- So ask yourself: when I help someone.
- Do I expect to get something in return? Think about it and you will find out that you are wrong.
Generally, what we expect from others is a reflection of ourselves, which means that to change our mutual beliefs, we must first analyze what we think of ourselves.
We were educated in an educational model that encourages and rewards self-demand and perfectionism, we have an obligation to be self-sufficient and independent.
We believe that we do not need anyone to move forward, that we are sufficient and that asking for help is a sign of weakness, this belief is based on the arrogance and pride that fuel our ego.
To recognize our limits is to accept that we do not have all the answers, that we do not “own the truth”.
Our inner nature has been designed for cooperation, because we depend on the people around us. This is a reality that we cannot ignore; anyone who thinks otherwise is disconnected from reality.
Learning to ask for help when needed is an act of humility and courage, supporting others strengthens us, increases our chances of overcoming obstacles, and achieving our goals.
When we ask for help, we break our prejudices and give the other person a vote of confidence.
We unsote and break the armor of pride and arrogance that makes us victims, believing that we cannot trust anyone and that we are completely alone.
When we ask someone for help, we recognize that no one is better than anyone; when we help, we are no better than others, and when they help us, we are no worse.
Accepting help is not humiliating and does not demean anyone
Recognize that in some situations, we need the company of someone to help us cope with difficulties, make us more human and closer to people.
Asking for help makes us more honest, more empathetic, more prepared for when we need to help someone.
Asking for help has nothing to do with failure, addiction, or inferiority. It means recognizing our own limits, having humility, courage, and overcoming prejudices that make us suspicious of others.
Many people had bad experiences when they needed to seek help: they couldn’t find people who could help at the time or received help that wasn’t what they expected and were frustrated.
Education based on interests and free from affections can also lead to a lack of trust in people in general, if we ask for help we will be in debt to the other and we will have to return the favor they have received.
Be aware of all the influences that prevent you from asking for help; don’t feed fear, mistrust and isolation.
Dare to ask for help, trust the people who offer you help selflessly
You’re not alone, there’s a lot of people around you willing to help you when you need it, give them a chance to prove they really love you.
With this attitude, you can generate feelings of love, generosity, compassion, and mutual help.