I’m a person like you, I’m not a robot without feelings and when you laugh at me it hurts, maybe I don’t understand irony or jokes, maybe I’m too literal in everything you say but that doesn’t make me any less human, I have feelings and even if you don’t see them because I can’t express them, your words sometimes hurt a lot.
I’m not deaf and I hear what you’re saying, even if it doesn’t mean the same to me. I don’t have an intellectual disability, even if you think otherwise. You can think of me as a stranger. animal, but the only thing that makes me different is to see the world from a more rational and data-rich point of view. I’m not extraordinary, I’m like you, but I see the world differently, that’s why they say I have Asperger’s syndrome.
- “It all depends on how you see it.
- Once you understand how they think and see the world.
- What one seems to be a disability.
- The other day can be a talent or a gift.
- -Szatmari-.
How easy it is to judge others when you only observe the fact itself, or imagine it, and you don’t realize the circumstances, when we don’t put ourselves in the defendant’s place and don’t feel empathy, when it sounds fun to pass jokes about those who don’t understand them. When characters like Sheldon Cooper represent people who see the world in a different way.
They say we’re the ones who have a neurobiological change in development?Disease? That affects empathy. But it is interesting to note that it is those who have it that do not apply it to us, they use us as if we were Google because we know a lot of data, as if we were machines, and do not consider the damage they do to us by stripping us of our humanity and playing with our feelings.
“Look with each other’s eyes, listen with each other’s eyes and feel with each other’s hearts. -Alfred Adler-
They judge us mercilessly, judge us automatically and without knowing us, simply because in their eyes we are pieces with strange edges that do not fit well in the particular riddles of their perceived worlds. Nobody cares about putting on their shoes and trying to cope with our condition. They only know that Asperger’s Syndrome is included in the DSM-5 in Autism Spectrum Disorders, and with that it already has its “private trailer”, if not the entire film. However, autism and Asperger’s are very different.
A person with Asperger’s syndrome lacks dexterity in their relationships with others, this is partly due to problems with the use of language, known as pragmatism, in other characteristics or abilities can have similarities and differences with other people, such as those between you and me.
The world of feelings and emotions is complicated for everyone, so emotional intelligence is fundamental to human adaptation, but in Asperger’s it’s even more complicated. Therefore, it is very important to consider certain needs guidelines and how to interact with people with Asperger’s, given their age:
Children with Asperger’s are usually special from the start; they should use as positive language as possible, congratulate them frequently and sincerely instead of focusing on what we think is wrong with the way they act. It is often more convenient to say what is due. do and refrain from what you don’t have to do.
Teaching them to listen is critical. We must be reasonable with what we ask of them, and the requirement must be in line with the child’s abilities, to do so, using a simple, clear and concise way of expressing themselves will greatly improve communication.
It’s important to help them identify their feelings. Asperger’s children have difficulty recognizing each other’s feelings and expressing themselves, it is also very positive to eliminate criticism as much as possible and help them have a positive image of themselves, as this will directly affect their self-esteem.
During adolescence, differences between Asperger’s children become more pronounced, may remain indifferent to social events or the struggle to become independent, while other young people move into adulthood in search of their own place in society.
A very important aspect to deal with is the relationship with your potential partners, men or women, as they are unable to understand relationships with passion. In addition, in this period of sex education, there must be a central pillar, although it should be present for all adolescents.
People with Asperger’s can, and most do, lead a normal life. While adaptation to the environment and emotions worked during childhood, they generally don’t have much trouble getting around the adult world. At work, when do they suffer the most?and tend to develop better when they need to carry out individual projects, regardless of their complexity.
As you can see I have Asperger’s, but I’m not a robot without feelings, dare to meet me and understand me. Put yourself in my place and use this skill, empathy, which is something you have in theory. Don’t judge me or make fun of me. Try to understand me and show me to understand you. I’m sure I’ll surprise you.