Wherever you go and in any circumstance you find yourself in, don’t lack self-esteem, fill your pockets with this positive emotional burden made with your self-concept and self-esteem and don’t let it forget at home. , do not put it in the hands of others, it is yours alone, as well as the responsibility to take care of it and strengthen it daily.
The philosopher Michel de Montaigne said that “the best thing in the world is knowing how to belong to oneself”. It is one of those lessons that we are not taught in school. Cultivating self-love should be a central theme in life. integrated into any school curriculum, because if we all know something, it is that sometimes we neglect this psychological area or even overfeed it.
Loving, worthy, feeling valid and deserving of what you want is healthy.
Self-esteem must be taken care of and protected. We will do this both to avoid devaluation and not to fall into the excessive pride that helps us very little.
Without this exceptional tool of our psychological architecture, personality will be exhausted. As humanist psychologist Carl Rogers rightly pointed out, we must take care of this sense of value, self-esteem and the ability to build meaningful lives.
This is something that may seem surprising. Many people go through life without knowing that their relationship and feelings with others are determined by self-love. If I do not love myself, I will always wait for others to give me what I miss; something that never happens and therefore eternal suffering and co-pendent relationships occur.
In the end, we simply accept the love we believe we deserve and the friendship that does not enrich us, but that we accept because we believe that we cannot aspire to something better.
The same is true at work and in all aspects of life, if this dimension fails, everything is distorted and we simply exist below the minimum, barely surviving in any existential realm, not knowing what satisfaction or happiness is.
There is no shortage of people to tell us, you have to love each other more!If they loved each other, these things wouldn’t happen to them! We agree, but how do we do it?By what magic formula can this be achieved?
Perhaps it is enough to look in the mirror and tell us that we are worth it, that everything reflected in the glass is perfect in itself?The answer is no. It’s not just about accepting and appreciating our physical appearance.
Self-love goes beyond feeling good about our appearance, how we are or what we have, it is a state of constant appreciation for everything we do, for everything that ends up reversing in our growth as people, it is a dynamic process that nourishes everything and gives us the brilliance to work on what we deserve so that we can increase our psychological strengths.
No matter the circumstance or the moment: wherever you go, don’t lack self-esteem, otherwise you’ll become someone you don’t like, a copy of yourself that tolerates what hurts you, who doesn’t dare fight for what hurts you. wants, and who accepts people who don’t do you good by your side.
Therefore, it is important to remember which pillars create self-love:
Remember that self-esteem should never be lacking because the lack comes from suffering, in the same way remembers also: that you never exceed or accumulate love for oneself in excess, because from overload the suffering is projected into others. The University of Texas by Dr. William Campbell noted the same thing.
In addition, they proposed a distinction: those who tend to over-strengthen their self-esteem are not narcissistic, narcissists tend to use others to reinforce their shortcomings, draining the energies of their loved ones.
However, a person with excessive self-esteem is better perceived than others, both intellectually and morally.
These people don’t need or want to control anyone, but they create high-voltage environments to leave evidence of their great arrogance. This is not appropriate and much less recommended.
The key is balance; happiness lies in loving others, positioning ourselves in the world to achieve what one wants, but knowing how to live in harmony.
Let’s keep that in mind.