Wise is the one who is able to draw a smile to avenge hatred, to do this is not a matter of hypocrites, let alone cowards, it is a sign of elegance, of the mind that knows and understands that there are battles for which it is not worth fighting, because sowing hatred in the heart is ripping out the roots of intelligence.
One thing we all realized at some point is that in our environment there are different types of people, we can identify them by the way they relate to their environment, on the one hand, there are those who feel that the whole universe is indebted to them: they are the ones who hold a grudge after a grudge. On the other hand, there are those who recognize what is there and react with the serenity of those who follow their own path, without weight or hostility.
“Hate is the death of thought. -Tomas Abraham-
There is an old Buddhist saying that reminds us of a very illustrative metaphor: “hate is like a burning stone. “Whoever uses it wants to others at the first opportunity, but what they can do is burn. Today, and because of the deep crisis we are experiencing in most structures, this pulse has increased considerably, which, in one way or another, brings out the worst of the human being.
We know this isn’t something new, we invite you to think about it.
You may be surprised by this fact, but our brain prioritizes mistrust over empathy, it is a defense mechanism by which our ancestors used this perception filter to avoid what was different, because anything other than the group often posed a threat.
We know that times have changed, that our realities are different, however, our brains are still dominated by these subtle instincts that often emerge in their most primitive appearance. Renowned British psychologist Henri Tajfel, famous for his research on prejudice, hatred and identity, has made clear through his research: human beings, as a species, will always see himself as an adversary.
Hate seduces many people because it serves as a mechanism of self-affirmation (you think differently from me, then you are my enemy; self-affirmation as the opposite of you, contemptuous of you, gives me power). The incomprehensible solution for many is created at the neurological level in a very real and at the same time surprising way.
You’ve probably heard that “there’s a thin line between love and hate. “It’s true. Researchers at University College London’s neurobiology laboratory have shown, through research, that passion and hatred share the same neurological domains.
This is probably to explain certain irrational behaviors that essentially characterize human beings so much.
We all hate something or someone, it is also possible that this feeling is more than justified: someone who has intentionally harmed himself or someone close to us, but it must be made clear: if emotion is justified, it is not advisable. feed him, allow him to settle into our lives like the one who opens the door to a stranger to take over his house.
“A resentful person gets infected. -Maz Scheler, philosopher-
We have all read and listened to the weariness that hatred enslaves us, makes us captive to bitterness and resentment. But what should we do?
It is worth visualizing for a moment what hate is, this emotion is born in the center of the brain, and its level of activation is intense and devastating, like a strong and fast flame, this incendiary emotion destroys our ability to act with dignity and maturity. .
It can leave the rational areas of the brain disturbed, where there is empathy and the ability to think with balance. In addition, blood pressure is on the rise and there are several physiological changes that have only one goal: to respond to the threat. so it doesn’t just mean losing health: we return our excellence as human beings.
Putting out this fire first implies an act of faith. We have to tell ourselves that we will trust ourselves again, not those who have hurt us, but ourselves and with full conviction that we deserve to be happy again.
So let’s put revenge aside and smile with the pride of those who know very well what they want, what it’s worth, and what’s not worth it.