It’s not worth it. Don’t stand what you want to take down, don’t feed on the dreams and hopes of what’s already broken, wobbly and no longer durable, it’s wise to assume it and know how to react in time, because anyone who doesn’t want to see reality and puts on their headband and armor every day at the end of the day is empty , empty of dreams and self-esteem.
We know that in recent times a large part of psychology has turned to offering adequate strategies to achieve many of our dreams and goals, we already know what positive thinking, motivation, self-confidence are, but what happens when some of these achievements begin to collapse?
- There are things that can no longer be sustained.
- Black-and-white loves.
- And faded hopes that we strive to maintain.
- It’s not right.
- You have to let go of what you already want to fall.
- Even if it hurts.
Believe it or not, personal growth also requires knowing which battles are no longer worth it, which doors should be closed, and which aspects of our lives is best to give up. We would like to reflect with you on this issue, and also offer to remember a number of strategies to deal more appropriately with these complicated situations.
We are used to understanding the word hope with a comforting and encouraging dimension, it is like a pat on the back in a moment of doubt, like a hug in a period of anguish and a cup of hot chocolate in an afternoon of tears. more than a positive emotion, hope is also a cognitive dynamic to consider.
In this dimension lie many interpretations that we make of everything around us, whether right or wrong. In our daily hope, there are also patterns of thought, missions, and personal analysis. The hope is that he will tell us “take a little more time. “and you’ll see how it goes, “or” sure you’ll finally realize that you really love me. “
We are talking about false hopes, of those who only try to comfort us at any cost, of those to which we cling, hoping that reality will always be our way, without dissonance, without holes. It is infallible, the one who says today, tomorrow presents us with his absence, and that what we now take for granted in a short time can be a terrible uncertainty.
Restorative hope, in the face of false hope, is one in which there are no resistances, this allows us to see things more clearly and maturely, being aware of what is already impossible, invites us to see also the horizon and the sweet promise. that what we lose today, tomorrow can be recovered. Because no defeat is definitive, but the beginning of something different.
No one lets go of anything without first fighting for it, everything that is loved, loved or valued requires great gestures of courage, personal investment and more than a waiver, but everything has a limit, and that impassable barrier to which you never have to give up. It is without a doubt our self-esteem, our identity, our emotional balance.
And then, not knowing how, comes a day when everything changes, when we set aside fears, where the painful falls to make way for a new reality full of inner peace and well-being?
As Brian Tracy, one of the gurus of today’s motivational psychology, reveals: “We will never get what we want in life if we just expect things to change, if we just feed false hopes. It’s a way of falling into the subtle abyss of suffering.
To avoid these situations, we suggest that you consider a series of strategies to open your eyes to restorative hope, one that can look further to move forward.
There’s a very interesting book called Byron Katie’s “Love the Reality. “In its pages, it shows us the value of being able to accept the realities that are happening around us, whether emotionally, professionally or personally. It would not be a matter of giving up at all, but being able to love each other to move forward, and thus make new and better changes according to what we want.
Anything that wants to fall will do it for itself sooner or later, postponing the inevitable is a form of torture that should not be foreseen, because in the end giving up is not always a gesture of weakness, on the contrary, saying goodbye in time is a reflection of a person strong and brave enough to get carried away.