We have been taught that denying help to others is selfish. Putting the needs of others above our own makes us “better, kind and generous people. “
We learn to give up what we really think and feel, on certain occasions, so as not to hurt or disrespect anyone. A person who becomes a “doormat,” who can accommodate any weight, ends up allowing others to use it as he sees. But over time, these generous people (who offer their time, their home, their money, their help, always present at any sign of emergency or unforeseen) are no longer valued and begin to receive in return a simple smile, or gratitude. You!?.
- Generosity.
- Kindness and understanding are certainly admirable qualities.
- Provided that certain limits are respected.
- And the limit is self-respect.
- First we must respect ourselves and then try to appreciate others.
- Our home.
- Our time.
- Our money and our feelings are as valuable as anything else.
It is not a question of selfishness, but of balancing our respect and respect for others, perhaps we should point out to others that they should treat us in the same way that we treat them, without tolerating abuse, or relying too much on the opinions of others. We must not let them use us as if we were plush, we must learn to say NO. We can’t do a million things just to look like good people.
Starting with everyday practices (such as rejecting awkward requests, not tolerating emotional blackmail) will earn us confidence and appreciation for ourselves, and so, in the long run, we will achieve a dignified personality, preventing them from enjoying or enjoying our situation.
There are two ways to live life: one is not to believe that there are miracles, the other is to believe that all things are miracles. Albert Einsten