Throughout our lives we make many friendships, some are good, others only serve to spend our free time and others end up disappointing us, sometimes we think it is a true friendship, but this friend leaves us in the dark.
Most people have experienced some kind of disappointment at least once in a lifetime; gave himself too much, and when he needed help, he did not succeed. The friendships we make can disappoint us and create some mistrust when we make new friends. Ideally, we can learn from our mistakes and strike a balance between trust and mistrust.
- Relying too much and too easily can be harmful.
- Because then you open up to anyone without filters the possibility of acting or not doing it this way.
- However.
- Being too suspicious can also be negative.
- As you will eliminate a lot of people who might become true friends.
- Not too much.
- Not too little.
- With confidence.
- But cautiously.
There’s a friendship you’ll have for life that you’ll never miss, it’s the friendship you have with yourself, but how do I become my best friend?Think about how you behave with a much-loved friendship and do the same to yourself. He observes his behavior, sometimes very kind and sympathetic to others; We support you, we encourage you, we want to tell you the best things to make you feel good, but do you do the same with yourself?Are the words you say to each other as respectful and pleasant as those you say to others?
For example, imagine that you’re having a beer with someone you like a lot, and that tells you that you’ve had a bad day at work, that you’ve made a mistake, and that everything you’ve done during the day will have to. His boss told him it was a disaster and that the mistake made was consistent with low-qualified people.
What are you going to tell that person to tell you about the hard day you spent at work?Of course, if you really love her, you will try to convince her that such a failure can be done by anyone, that it is normal and that her personal worth should not be measured by a mistake that someone can make.
What would you think if this had happened to you? If your self-esteem isn’t very good, you’d think of things like, “I’m not useful,” “I’m a mess,” “Am I doing everything wrong?”, Etc. Why is it that when Something happens to us, we are like this ourselves, and when it happens to someone else, we are more understanding and think that anyone can make mistakes?
The base is on the affection. When it’s with a person we love very much, it’s normal to try to help him and tell him the best things, however, when we’re not well with ourselves, we just make the situation worse, becoming less and less confident in our own abilities.
Whenever you feel negative emotions, ask yourself what this admired person would say to you and apply it to yourself, the exterior is not stable, you can find people who support you, who trust you, but who can also disappoint you at any time. On the other hand, if you establish a good indoor climate and manage to become your own best friend, you will have a stable foundation for life.
What you’re looking for may be inside you, enjoy life with the people around you, but you should know that you can’t trust anyone, after all we’re all imperfect, if you give everything about yourself to someone, you run the risk of finding yourself with nothing for yourself if you’re disappointed.
If you have 100 liters of water in a well, give 50 to those who love it, if you give everything, you will have nothing and it will no longer be love or appreciation, it will be addiction.