Be authentic, dreamy, stubborn at times, and even have a point of madness that makes you unique. Be yourself, defend your identity at every moment of your life, even if your peculiarities, opinions or manias do not please everyone. the right people will arrive when you least expect it.
This idea, which at first glance seems logical, understandable and expected, is one of the main reasons why a person goes to the psychologist, the symptoms are almost always the same: mental exhaustion, extreme physical fatigue and the feeling that it has been lost. yourself, which has been lost among the priorities of others, the environmental pressures and sounds of a world with which you no longer identify.
- “The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world that’s always trying to become someone else.
- “? EE Cummings?.
When we cease to be ourselves to be what others expect, we lose the most beautiful part of our being: our own identity. In addition, when we set aside what makes us unique to become a “standard”, supportive and manageable person, who adapts to everything, we allow those people to which we would like to keep our distance.
Gradually and without realizing it, our days acquire a shade of gray, where there is no brightness of inspiration or spontaneity that applauds and motivates. We have a responsibility to discover and defend our own light, which sets us apart, which makes us unique people for a world where we are all replaceable.
William Ury, co-founder of Harvard University’s trading program, is one of the leading communication experts, many of his works are valuable contributions in the field of personal growth, and describe certain psychological processes to learn to be happier in our personal, social life. and professional environment, which are often complex and stressful.
In your book? (?How do you get a yes with yourself?) He explains that the biggest problem for people when they need to communicate, reach agreements, or even establish meaningful personal relationships is a lack of trust: we don’t believe in ourselves. we don’t feel safe, wear armor, dress and act very cautiously and cautiously. If we live in fear, we will attract failure in all areas of our lives.
It’s not easy to be yourself in a society that strives to create equal people. The school strives to teach children to think the same and gather their skills in a hierarchy. In addition, many companies also prefer docile workers who do not. question the politics of the organization. It is not easy to be unique when indicators mark the same path and destination for everyone.
Despite all this, we are forced to fight and defend who we are: unique people, being true to oneself can come at a high cost: we are misunderstood, the lone child in the back row or the competing employee who protests for everything and strives. give a personal touch to your work. However, it is difficult to be able to “achieve oneself”, a starting point for addressing true happiness.
Authentic, free, spontaneous people with a charming point of madness are attractive. This is the case for a simple reason: did they say?Do they, yes, accept me as I am, yes, be myself, even though you’re not?I don’t like it.
“Personal growth begins when we are able to accept our weakness. Jean Vanier?
As we move forward on this important and complex stage, everything changes, our conversations are more spontaneous and secure, we are not afraid to displease because we do not try to please the other to be accepted at all costs. emotional state, before or after?best friends, the special and wonderful companion: the one who accepts us and loves us as we are, without any artifice and without any trace of insecurity or lies.
In this article we offer you some reflections on some dimensions that will help you give that. Yes, your own wonderful identity.
Before influencing or creating an impact on others to attract what interests us, we must first establish a strong influence or connection with ourselves, it is this self-confidence that will open the door for you.
? Put your shoes on. Chances are they’re already used to putting themselves in each other’s place, but how long have they been in touch with their own internal needs, emotions and realities?Today is a good day to start.
? Start an appointment with yourself. Initiate a plan to reach firm agreements: “NO,” do, say, or demonstrate something you don’t want or don’t believe; “YES”, be yourself, act without fear.
? Accept your gift. You may not like the previous version of yourself or even bother you. Never mind. Your chance for a better life begins “here and now,” so impose, act, create, transform and leave your personal mark on everything you do.
Finally, but not only does it always remember the famous motto: “be and let it be”. Authentic and unique people are valued and loved, but they also respect each individual’s opinions and personal world. it is not always respected is difficult; However, it is worth doing so.
We must learn to defend our identity in order to safely show the joy, magic and originality that we carry in ourselves, in this way we will open the doors to these people, to these special events and opportunities that will bring us true happiness.
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