Relationships and love isn’t just about offering boxes of chocolates on Valentine’s Day, you have to know how to differentiate between healthy and unhappy relationships so you don’t get stuck with them.
A satisfying and healthy relationship can make us better and happier people, to achieve this requires good communication, respect and good couple habits.
“Someone else’s business should add value to your life and not meet an emotional need. -Gottfried Kerstin-
When there is no communication, respect and good habits unhappy relationships are born, the worst thing is to maintain these relationships for convenience with the following behaviors:
Your inner voice said your partner isn’t what it looks like?
It is very common that at the beginning of the relationship everything seems perfect, it is the part of the passion that brings us closer to this person: we tend to minimize their defects and increase their qualities.
The problem begins when they start to appear or when you start to see certain unhealthy behaviors such as lies, strange attitudes and excessive jealousy.
If you find yourself in this situation, stop playing or you’ll enter into one of those unfortunate relationships that no one wants to have.
Analyze the situation and if you think you’re falling into unhealthy behavior, consider the different options that exist.
Sometimes it is possible to seek outside help, and at other times it is better to put an end to it to avoid more serious problems in the future.
The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant, we have created a society that honors the server and has forgotten the present. -Albert Einstein-
If your family is like mine, they probably want to know when you’re getting married, they’ll show concern about their celibacy regardless of age or goals, this is a very common thing and you have to learn to deal with it instead of obsessing about it.
Many unfortunate relationships arise from this concern. Women and men may be tempted to start a relationship to avoid constant questions.
“The problem is that we live in the culture of the happy ending, in the culture of ” How should it be?”Instead of “how’s it going. ” If we hadn’t learned this fantasy, I think we’d be less neurotic. -Anonymous-
When the engagement comes, they start presing us for the wedding, eventually they get married and soon get involved in a relationship that’s not what they wanted.
The best thing you can do is not worry about external pressures. If you’re not ready now, just explain it to anyone who asks questions.
Everyone has their time and you have to learn to respect it
This behavior may be related to the previous one, but not necessarily, are situations in which we have a relationship with another person just to avoid questions, but without true love.
You may like it, but you don’t like it, or there are things you don’t really tolerate, but can you take it because it is?Easier sustainable social pressure.
There may not be external pressure either. Perhaps your greatest dream is to get married and have children to start a stable family.
Then you search and find a person who wants more or less the same thing. Chances are you won’t meet all your expectations, but since you’re willing to offer what you want, you accept.
As you can imagine, in either of the two situations described we will have an unhappy relationship, at first they may even work, but after a few years the problems will be too big.
Never be there? Something?Of a person when it can be him? Quite the opposite?- Anonymous-
We all have intuition, even if we often don’t pay the attention it deserves. Paying attention to intuition is the best way to avoid and end unhappy relationships. Just listen to what your feelings say.
We always want to avoid pain and suffering. This is normal, so we can do two things with unhappy relationships: get out of it or convince ourselves that everything is fine. To stay healthy, the best alternative is to end unhappy relationships.
It won’t be easy, but you’ll take control of your life and be able to find a relationship that really brings you happiness.
“It is not the same to be guided by intuitions as to be guided by impulses. Intuition goes beyond your eyes. The pulse is terribly blind, Anonymous?”
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