Many parents complain that their child is a difficult child, who always has an angry emotion that evacuates inappropriately, with taunts, oaths, or subtle acts of disobedience.
We must understand that no child is equal to another and that none of us can know what kind of needs these little beings we have just give birth to can have, to which we always wish for the best.
- Emotion is the source of human energy.
- It is the key that should guide children.
- First to understand themselves.
- Then to understand the world.
Difficult children often generate a very high level of stress in their parents, in some cases rayane in impotence, this is not an easy topic to discuss and, in fact, books do not always help, even the experience we have with another child. recommendations from some parents.
Your son, the difficult child, is unique, special and unique. And if there’s still one thing you still need is understanding. Most of the time they are demanding children, locked in their “inner palaces”, in airtight spaces where they cannot. find doors to express this contained emotion.
Let’s take an example: Let’s think of a girl who has had a bad day at school, who comes home and when her parents ask her what happened, he answers with a cross-response. Faced with this, the parents decide to punish her, keeping her in her room all afternoon. What’s the result? No way.
The blocked emotion is a thorn surrounded by a stone wall, if we raise more walls the spine will be even more hidden, so the first step will be to remove each stone from that wall through communication and affection.
If the child has difficulty building walls, do not build new walls around him, do not isolate him, do not neglect him, do not leave him alone. We all know that the process of reaching them is complex, however, you should first consider these aspects:
You have to be the author of their worlds, safe worlds where they feel comfortable expressing that contained emotion that allows them to recognize, download, feel freer and safer to advance in each of the scenarios that define the child throughout his life. Cycle.
We already know that difficult children demand above all attention and strategies that we can use creatively to meet their needs, to help you manage this wonderful emotional world that sometimes overwhelms and blocks you.
Let us always remember that emotional intelligence is not a trait, it is a skill and therefore, as parents, it is our duty to pass on these strategies, this learning, to our children.
Take note of steps to educate difficult children in this area to channel, shape, and express this contained emotion.
If we blame a difficult child’s mistakes, if they are devalued or repressed for their reactions, it will generate even more anger and anxiety. Always remember that this type of child, deep down, is very fragile and has low self-esteem.
A positive word generates positive emotion and positive emotion builds confidence.
There are parents who make the mistake of comparing the difficult child to their siblings or other children, that’s not good. Just as it’s a mistake to start a dialogue that already involves certain phrases like, “You’re a bum, you never listen, you never behave?”Avoid this type of communication and always follow these instructions:
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