Behind the constant anger pride is often hidden, they are profiles that must always be correct, that cannot be contradicted or corrected, and that are also constant victims of their own frustration, that is why it is important to point out that behind pride there is hides narcissism, forming a very exhausting personality type.
They often say that the arrogant will never recognize their “sins. “You won’t because your nose is so close to the mirror that you can’t even see yourself. However, we are so used to this kind of presence around. We who almost without realizing it, normalize narcissism and pride. We see them in political elites, see them in our companies and see them even in some of the new generations.
“It is easier to write against pride than to defeat it” – Francisco de Quevedo-
All these profiles, seemingly so different from each other, have common characteristics, no matter how old they are, they are people who know everything, no one can teach or show anything because they have a great knowledge of life. they are characterized by putting the needs of others in the background and in turn having the emotional maturity of a 6-year-old.
In this way, those who treat them daily will already be familiar with their constant anger, do they have very fine skin?And a very high pride, we know, so at least, oversights, they already lose control and show behaviors. how to stop talking to us for a while or just get discouraged because they feel upset about a minor and insignificant fact?
Arrogance is always a disguise. A porcupine costume that acts as a defensive barrier to prevent anyone from perceiving the fears, character flaws and weaknesses they wear, that way, if someone tells me that I should be more patient and calm down, I will not hesitate to warn myself and raise my thorns (they have questioned my good work). It also doesn’t matter if that person made the comment in good faith: I will consider it an affront.
Self-esteem in this type of profile is very low. However, this feeling of inferiority often becomes a source of aggression; a catapult laden with rage, disrespect and bitter frustration. The need to be above all in any situation, circumstance or context forms this “error of authority” where no one should discredit them. Countering them, even insignificantly, becomes an insult.
In such cases, pride is a sophisticated compensation system, so the most interesting thing about these profiles is that this pointed disguise is often forged in childhood as a way to disguise insecurities, and then become a way to react to problems or disappointments. it happens because the person uses aggression and pride as a means of marking the territory, as a means of validating himself.
However, what they are really able to do is create distances and move in a circle of shallow relationships.
Behind constant anger lies a clear problem with emotional management, self-esteem and psychological balance. No one can live under the crust of chronic anger; wrapped in a lion’s mane and roaring every two or three words. If we have a person who constantly exhibits this behavior, we must be clear: the problem is not us, we are not the cause of unrest; the problem really belongs to him.
“Anyone can get angry, it’s very simple. Now, to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, with the right goal and in the right way, isn’t it easy?-Aristotle-
When anger becomes your way of being, nothing will grow around you, yet if under this skin arrogance and narcissistic personality want to control everything and seek some benefit, the best thing we can do in these cases is to keep our distance and not lose energy to them.
Because pride is not cured by arguing, but by allowing the proud to look in the mirror and get rid of the lion’s mouth and his porcupine costume, for beneath all these skins are his weaknesses, his nooks and crannies of emptiness, his labyrinths of insecurities. and even why not, even a frightened inner child who keeps responding in anger to what he doesn’t like.
Constant anger, believe it or not, is the order of the day in the lives of many adults, it is worth investing time, attention and good dose of affection in our children. Children, from a young time, often get frustrated and say, “I’m angry now and I’m not going to listen anymore. “
Let’s handle these situations well, educate them properly.