Our children’s wings begin to wean when we believe in them, when we trust in their truth, their hopes, and their abilities, so it is essential that we play mentors, dream seamstresses, godparents of children’s utopias. that the child will follow his or her example, not his advice.
There is a reason why the offices of child psychologists and pediatricians are full of images of important and famous characters, which for one reason or another we all admire, including them, the reason is simple: children need to know that despite all the difficulties of life, they can get what they want.
- So if your child has doubts.
- If the issues affect his self-esteem and you don’t know how to act to make him feel good.
- It’s time to help him open his heart and realize that the best treasure is very close to his.
Arguably, the cornerstone of emotional intelligence is the self-regulation of learning, this means that strategies that a child is able to develop in the evolution of their learning will generate greater internal well-being and therefore a better understanding of their own emotions. and those of others.
Emotional skills predict our children’s success in life more reliably than academic performance; however, this reasoning should not be used as a basis for saying that good socio-emotional performance is more important than academic performance.
If we think about it, we will realize that our children and young people, like us in the past, are immersed in formal education for nearly the first 18 years of their lives.
This certainly cannot be ignored. From the academic or academic stage their emotional growth is articulated, usually children spend more time in school or doing schoolwork than playing in the park, although this reality changes at certain stages of childhood, we adapt them to our way of life.
Therefore, a child must learn to identify and reflect on their thoughts, strengths and weaknesses, it is essential to help him manage his feelings when he does not understand something, when he cannot stay focused and does not know how to solve problems, etc.
If children know how best to regulate their learning will be an active and constructive process, it is not a utopia to want our children to be able to monitor, regulate and control their thoughts to achieve motivation and behavior according to the defined goals.
If a child thinks they can learn the multiplication tables, they can do so, but you need to receive messages of encouragement from the outside and, above all, from your parents, siblings, grandparents and teachers.
This is essentially known in psychology as the “Pygmalion effect”. The expectations we convey will determine the successful completion of tasks, especially when parents and teachers are the most important adult reference for children.
Aren’t we talking about one? Wanting is magical and optimistic power, we talk about not cutting off their wings, teaching them to fly and learning that all the strategies they develop are valid, because there is only one way to do things, even if the education system forces them to do it. As a result of a particular path, they must understand that experimentation is an indispensable prerequisite for learning.
Do children, parents, teachers, and teachers need to understand that even if we need to teach our children to follow certain academic standards, apart from them we can also paint, write, act, observe, talk?? Every independent path generates trust, and this always happens accompanied by perseverance.
We are so obsessed with creating an adult wellness bubble that we forget the importance of boosting children’s self-esteem. It is very important that our children grow up in a world of balanced adults; it’s the best we can pass on to him.
We don’t want children to be perfect because we don’t want to cultivate pride; We want children who love each other, who have confidence in themselves and their potential. We want children to know that when we are ourselves, we are unbeatable.