Assertiveness is one of the social skills that we sometimes abandon so as not to provoke conflicts, there are also those who abandon it so as not to know how to assert the ourselves, we have already lost the practice that we had naturally when we were young. and now we have enormous difficulties in defending our own rights.
However, self-affirmation is necessary if we want to function in the social world without hurting ourselves, otherwise we are likely to end up being victims of many abuses that make us suffer and that we do not know how to cut.
- For this reason.
- This article is dedicated to listing the main rights that can be defended by asserting their rights.
- Rights that others have a certain tendency to restrict.
- Without anyone other than us allowing it.
This right allows you to have your own opinions and defend them, in addition, it allows others not to judge or frighten you, even using this right you can support these opinions/judgments regardless of what most or most people consider it acceptable.
At the same time, behind this right is motivation and discomfort, motivation is to achieve the coherence of our own opinions, thus articulating a belief system, discomfort in this sense arises when a dissonance is detected and cannot be solved in a simple way: as people who think that smoking is bad for their health and smoke , or as people who give up and then stop concessions they have made.
With this right, you can judge who you are and what you do, and have your behavior follow your ideas, not others. In addition, you will be the one who sets the reference and comparison points, as well as who chooses the height at which to place the bar to which you want to jump.
Following Smith, we can highlight some threads of thought, reflected in words, that can sabotage the defense of this right:
Our obligations of responsibility are to take care of ourselves and our children, if we have them, as far as other responsibilities are, we can or cannot do so in our own discretion, and no one should judge us by that.
You may or may not lend a hand to the colleague if he is in trouble, but that is not our obligation anyway, unless it is established in the contract or we have previously committed ourselves to that role. This right right right rightly allows us to expose our interests to others and, in doing so, we receive recognition for caring for the interests of others, because that is by no way our own obligation.
In that sense, there are people who are true experts in compromise/trying to restrict that right. Think of the son who leaves the room on the run knowing that his mother will soon put him in order; Think of the colleague who asks the other for help and blames you for any mistakes that may exist in the outcome.
This right is more present in couples. There are people who explain that they would like to remain silent, just for fear of the other person’s irritation or because they believe it is their obligation.
In this sense, explanations are a sign of courtesy that we may or may not apply. No one needs to know what we’re doing and how we’re doing it. It’s a right that has everything charged in a formal trial.
On the other hand, sometimes someone can ask us for an explanation. In fact, many jealous people are constantly repeating this request in search of safety, however, we must know that there is nothing that will finally force us to give them, as boring and insistent as the person asks or even, in some cases, demanding.
In this sense, we ourselves have the power to choose what we share with others, it is a wonderful thing because it gives us the opportunity to manage our own privacy.
Below we describe some of the most important rights we can defend by asserting ourselves, but there are other rights that are also distinguished by their importance, are:
Violation of each of these rights is a great temptation for those around us, whether consciously or unconsciously, yet we must assert ourselves without losing education to defend them.