There are moments like this, those in which one person seems to suffer disappointments after another, lives by leaps and bounds only to, in the end, open his eyes and discover that he lived on a strange island surrounded by false affections, people with false backgrounds and wrong feelings. then when we take the pieces of our heart to advance without looking back, with graceful dignity and firm determination.
Sports psychology experts ensure that every athlete must learn from an early age to face disappointment, in any competitive sport there will always be a winner and a loser, athletes will always live moments of higher or lower performance, as well as injuries and events not related to their own preparation or performance that can veto the power to participate in a competition , event or match.
- The same goes for the game of life.
- However.
- Most of us learn early than the idea that if someone works hard.
- Success is guaranteed and that if you take good care of the people you love.
- They will respond in the same way.
- Almost no one wanted to tell us that in the real-life ring two plus two are not always four.
- That gray days are more frequent than bruises.
- And that people are fallible.
- Contradictory and imperfect.
Digesting daily disappointments is not an easy task, however, out of curiosity, it must be said that disappointment is the third most felt emotion by human beings after love and repentance, so it is necessary to learn to recognize, assume and face it. Here’s how.
There is no shortage of paternalistic people who say that “suffering a disappointment in life is necessary. “Why will feeling disappointed allow us to have the motivation to grow?Well, these kinds of phrases look great on our social media wall, but they need to be clarified and analyzed in detail.
First, no one is forced to suffer a heartbreaking disappointment at “knowing what life is. “This is a dimension that we must learn to manage as soon as possible so that this does not happen more than necessary. In turn, disappointments will always be better in small doses and in manageable sizes. This is how a person really learns to manage and channel them for proper learning.
In turn, it is important to reiterate the need to know how to deal with daily disappointment to prevent a larger dimension from occurring sooner or later, so as not to get caught in the corner of the dilemma, in the hole of pain and in the Forest of Despair We say this for a very specific reason: the small tácite disappointment becomes the silent killer of any relationship.
Let us think for a moment: there are those who choose to close this small contempt of their partner who, almost without knowing how, ends up becoming daily practice. We also say that it is nothing if our friend forgets that today we would receive the results of important medical tests. For your part, we also decided to remain silent when our family jokes aloud about the project?Absurd, the one we dreamed of so much.
Do we avoid expressing aloud many of the disappointments we feel for fear of offending others, for fear of breaking that bond that uniessofies us with them?However, we forget that the main offended are us and that those who keep one disappointment after another suffocate. In the end, one day we wake up with the awareness that everything in us is a mistake, we will react in advance and we will learn to react in time.
A disappointment is much more than an unmet expectation, it is the breaking of a certainty, it is a bond that loses its strength, it is a burst of cold air that opens our eyes and sometimes even puts a wall in our heart. if there is one reason why a disappointment hurts so much is because we feel so much responsibility and annoyance towards ourselves: how could we take so much for granted?, how could we trust so much and build so many castles, because what was underneath?was it quicksand?
We propose to reflect on these keys to better manage these situations.
One of the first things to avoid is to practice what is called ‘retrospective bias’. We talk, of course, about this tendency to believe, after experiencing the results, that we could have predicted everything. There are things that cannot be predicted, we do not have a crystal ball with which we can see how certain people will react, so it is best to accept what happened and avoid taking responsibility or project some responsibility on ourselves.
The second important aspect is related to what we mentioned above, we should be able to react to small disappointments before they become true torturers, those that leave our self-esteem at the bottom of the well Never forget to talk about what bothers you?When is it like this and not when is it too late?.
The third and final point we must apply in our daily lives is the ability to take a step back, we must understand that we are all fallible, including ourselves, we all have the power to deceive and disillusion, so we are all subject to this giant. Wheel where sometimes we win and sometimes we lose, where good places are no longer the right ones and you have to recycle, change the roadmap, people and even the goals.
Sometimes being disappointed is little more than a strange mechanism in which life tells us that there is something much better in store for us.
Main image courtesy of Claudia Tremblay