Many of us have been shy at some point in our lives, but shyness is not a particularly relevant disease or problem in most cases.
On the contrary, shyness is a protective shield that encloses us within ourselves so that we try not to hurt ourselves, but this can sometimes have the opposite effect.
“Shyness is distrust of self-esteem, who, wanting to please, fears that it will fail?
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Being shy is not boring, being shy is simply a way of being, with its peculiarities and characteristics.
The evolution of shyness throughout life is something very interesting to allow self-knownness.
Many of us experience a shift in openness to others in childhood and increasing shyness in adulthood.
This change is sometimes due to public performances or exhibitions that make us anxious and uncomfortable.
“Is the most common cause of shyness an over-view of our own importance?
Shyness, therefore, would not be an inherited genetic factor, but a component of personality that, although influenced by biological temperament, will be much more conditioned by the social interactions we have, so we must take into account these aspects and their evolution in order to understand our shyness.
Public exposure always means subjecting our skills and skills to the judgment of others, and it is in adolescence and youth that we are most afraid to be evaluated, judged, and criticized.
If, in addition to being an already delicate period, we add a public exhibition, for example, in which others are unfriendly and even disrespectful, our social self may experience a feeling of enormous vulnerability and condition us for future similar situations.
So, to protect ourselves from this vulnerability, we close ourselves for fear of what others might think, but we ignore the fact that this is something we will never know for sure.
Shyness is a trait of our personality that shouldn’t be particularly problematic, but when would that really be a problem?
If you realize that shyness is not a mistake in your personality, you will find that you will feel much less psychological pressure and that things will disappear in a more natural way.
The important thing is that even with your introverted personality, you will be able to establish cordial relationships with others. Sometimes it’s not as much about being open as it is about being timely.
The shyness that causes us discomfort can be improved, but let us remember that shyness can be a charming quality, which does not make it boring, simple or without social qualities, it is simply another type of communicative and social style.