There are many self-help books designed to provide tips on how to learn how to live life to the fullest and with joy. Many of us have turned to them for answers to the blockages we feel when we want to achieve certain goals. conditioning the unconscious beliefs learned in childhood.
A belief is an idea of ourselves or the world in which we live, we give this idea the power of absolute truth and, as such, acts as a filter through which we perceive the world. These are the glasses we use to see life. We react to the experiences of life from this perception, so we get results in this way of thinking, and it will confirm that the world is as we believe it is.
“Faith is, in part, involuntary, can’t a man be considered better or worse by his faith?-Percy Bysshe Shelley-
People have beliefs and philosophies of life that, even if they were invented by ourselves, are dogmatically maintained. To achieve our goals in life, we must learn to form and maintain rational beliefs and to face the irrational.
Irrational thought patterns are false, dysfunctional, and automatic; expressed in terms of obligation, necessity or requirement (I must, I must, I am obliged). If we do not act according to these standards, we are inundated with negative emotions (depression, guilt, anger, anxiety, fear), which interfere with the achievement of our goals and generate behavioral changes such as isolation behaviors, avoidance or escape, toxic drug addiction, etc.
On the contrary, rational beliefs are preferential or relative, and are expressed in terms of desires and tastes (I would prefer, prefer). When people don’t get what they want, negative feelings arise that make it difficult to achieve new goals. or goals.
It is not the situations that cause problems, but are provoked by beliefs that permeate our interpretations. Rational beliefs bring us closer to a life adapted and flexible to our desires.
The collapse of a belief creates a new dimension of the person
Irrational thoughts take us away from the life we want to have. Cognitive psychology, that is, Ellis’ rational emotional behavioral therapy, is based on the assumption that it is not the facts that occur that cause the disorders, but the interpretation that people have. close to them.
Here are some beliefs that we internalize and that take us away from the life we want to have:
Our needs generate emotional tension that results in two types of psychological disorders: ego anxiety and disturbing anxiety.
If you think you owe me nothing, you don’t really owe me anything, because I respect all beliefs and because all beliefs are the same. Are they all beliefs? Antonio Porchia