There are many types of phobias, such as emetophobia (fear of vomiting), phagophobia (fear of swallowing or eating), mainly present in children, ginophobia (fear of women) or nictophobia (fear of darkness). But one of the most curious and lesser-known phobia is phylophobia. Everyone recognizes in the act of falling in love with a way of living an exciting experience that fills us with life and optimism. However, this is not how it works for those with this disorder.
Phylophobia is an anxiety disorder (from the Greek “phylum” – love and “phobia” – fear) that means “fear of love”. Although its causes are unknown, it seems to be related to past romantic relationships that have left a deep pain mark on the individual, such as a divorce or a conflicting romantic separation that has been lived traumatically or simply because one is used to living single for a long time. Or, also, the person suffered an emotional disability in childhood; as they say, “The situation is slipping away. “This causes the person to close when they feel they can return to a similar or similar situation. He feels an overwhelming fear that prevents him from starting a new relationship. When the person feels like they are falling in love, panic invades them and rejects the situation. This often confuses the couple with whom the romantic relationship began; In the face of his wife’s escape, he feels rejected, injured and, depending on his self-esteem, may feel unsy loved or unsy loved by anyone.
- The problem is that a person with phylophobia cannot avoid these painful sensations when he is in front of the person who attracts him: dizziness.
- Vomiting.
- Nausea.
- Tremors.
- Panic attacks and desire to flee are some of the most common manifestations.
- Depending of course.
- On the person.
- Because of these protests.
- The person wants nothing more than to end the situation as soon as possible; a philosopher suffers greatly and refuses to live one of the most rewarding experiences for the human being: falling in love and living love.
How does a philosopher work in the field of love?Does the person who suffers from phylophobia tend to look for all kinds of defects in the person who attracts him, to seek impossible loves, or to choose people who know in advance that they will abandon them?, all this to justify himself and others who are not with anyone because they have not found the right person.
Is there any treatment for phylophobia? Experts recommend that, first of all, it is necessary to recognize that one suffers from phylophobia and to face the situation without fleeing; living the present without thinking about the future, learning that taking risks is part of life; that each romantic relationship is unique and not repeated and that we can lose unique experiences; that normally the consequences can always be less than we imagine or that in life there are stages and now love has knocked on our door and we must say “yes”, realizing that love may not last a lifetime, but “so be it”. , because that person was worth it.
These are the secrets to fighting phylophobia. It is also important to inform our family members or partner of our problem, without shame or fear, and seek the help of a psychologist if we cannot solve the situation alone.
You only learn to live and enjoy life by living it, and if we only look at it we will never have any experience, good or bad, if we manage to overcome our philophobia, we will feel much better about ourselves, our self-esteem. it will grow and we will probably be happier. After all, overcoming obstacles and barriers makes us stronger and more courageous.
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