Arguing often sucks our energies, leaves us without strength, without will and unhappy. Problems drown us to the point where they end up demanding our emotional well-being of life.
When the fight becomes usual and we cannot get out of the spiral we find ourselves in, we suffer. That’s a lot. So, there are times when we literally have to escape.
- We may love the people around us.
- But when discussions become a way of life.
- We become emotional ogres and we only know how to complain and get serious.
It’s not about never arguing, it’s about knowing why it’s worth it and why it’s not. In this sense, discussion should serve to understand, validate and respect the other; never torment us constantly.
What happens is that when we’re so overwhelmed by irritability, we can’t respond logically, so it’s important to learn to tolerate frustration when someone else doesn’t think the same thing as us.
Therefore, it is necessary to know what should be discussed and what should not be discussed, that is, avoiding a discussion is never a sign of inferiority, abandonment or cowardice, knowing how to speak and even getting bored to the right extent. is to know how to manage your emotions, that is to say have an emotional intelligence.
“Anyone can get bored, it’s very simple. But if you’re bored with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, with the right lens and the right way, isn’t it easy?
? Aristotle-
When we ignore someone on purpose and for a specific purpose, they say we are enforcing the law of ice, it’s like we’re going to hit someone with the cruel whip of our indifference without offering any explanation or consideration.
Obviously, this never works well, regardless of the toxicity of the person, in fact, let’s just say it’s the cruellest way to punish someone.
Whether it’s because we want to end a spiral of inconvenience or conflict that will engsing our mood, or because we don’t know what to do to get rid of someone, the ice law is really torture (and therefore intolerable behavior).
The law of ice is a truly destructive form of psychological violence for people and relationships, because if there is one thing we are not prepared with is indifference, therefore, since we must not allow ourselves to harm anyone deliberately, we must avoid applying it.
When frequent discussions lead to boredom, we end up irritated with ourselves, we are frustrated by the helplessness of never agreeing and not being able to understand each other, it bothers us not to be able to enjoy ourselves.
Gradually we stop feeling good and are increasingly confused by our reluctance to reconcile or even speak, this is natural, because in the end we find ourselves very ill with the possibility of expressing our opinions and feelings.
One way or another, every nuisance we add is a new way to punish our internal identity and approval, so we should find a way to break the habit of fighting for nothing, to exhaust ourselves with everything and start worrying about what it is. it really matters: living and enjoying the good of those around us.