Is he usually a quiet, reserved person? You may be out of touch with others, but it’s just a simple look. In front of something important, you lift your wall and remain silent.
There are many people who prefer to listen before speaking, who seem shy but are not, very kind people who attract us because of the trust they transmit, but hide something in them, something that hurts, something that only they suffer alone in silence.
- You may have found someone with these characteristics.
- Or maybe you are.
- It is difficult to perceive or be aware of these people because they go completely unnoticed.
If you are one of those people who has something to hide behind your apparent silence, which is not entirely the case, as this silence often asks for help in a way that would leave anyone deaf, you may have noticed how easy it is to leave. through unnoticed.
People are focused on those who attract attention, people who show their strong personality, who stand out from others. However, you are a person who can pretend perfectly, because no one will notice. Nobody’s paying attention to you.
That doesn’t mean anyone cares, you know very well that it’s not, but the others aren’t sensitive enough to open their eyes and see beyond their simple facade.
A smile can make everyone believe in your happiness, but believe it, there will always be someone who doesn’t believe in that smile that contrasts with your gaze.
You may have already met someone who approached you thinking something was wrong with you, maybe it’s a close family member, a friend, or a person (teacher, neighbor?) With great sensitivity.
If they don’t have enough confidence or don’t care so much about you, they’ll accept your ‘am I fine’, ‘it’s all right’, ‘it’s stressful’ and they’ll leave knowing that it’s not all true, of course?
A lot of people are like they have Diogenes syndrome: they accumulate garbage, negative things, until they explode and all that garbage bag bursts and disperses, destroying everything.
Each of us is different. As much as we try not to suppress emotions, if it is in our nature, we will. Yes, we can work hard and do everything backwards. But make a real effort, though it’s very difficult.
We must do the same with this silence suffered by many people, no matter how kind they are to others, no matter how confident they are, it is difficult to leave everything, why it is so difficult to say what is happening to them. “Why, if you’re one of those people, are you?I want to, but I can’t. “
It’s not that what you have to say is serious, but sometimes you don’t even know how to express it, there are very emotional people, who feel a lot, and expressing all this is almost impossible.
It’s not the same as living a situation, living it and telling it, it’s not that it’s not something you can count on, it’s not something you’ll be judged on, it’s just that you don’t know where to start or maybe the story is too big to tell it.
Remember that people who are like that keep things to themselves for a long time, this implies that they have gone through many things without others nodding.
These people are afraid to be vulnerable because they used to trust someone and didn’t feel understood.
All this goes through the minds of people who suffer beyond silence, are vulnerable and carry burdens on their shoulders that none of us could bear.
It is important that, if you are one of these people, you learn to take everything inside you, one way or another, gradually if necessary, or abruptly if necessary, but throw it all away. Because, as a friend of mine once said, if you don’t remove it, it will eventually become a tumor.
Images courtesy of Marie Descombs and Beth Spencer.