Big syndrome has nothing to do with size, in fact, it is not associated with a specific sex either, since this type of behavior can be observed in both men and women. to display arrogant, haughty and clearly narcissistic demeanor.
Does this mean that success almost inevitably implies a tendency towards selfishness and arrogance?The answer is no. Not in all cases and not for those who have always been more affable, empathetic and compassionate, however, there is a type of characteristic that appears in some people, they are the ones that, by gaining a more relevant position, show greater development. of his own arrogance.
- So we can say that there was already a basic component.
- A trend.
- There is also another striking aspect that we have seen on several occasions: there are those who do not do it well.
- This is what in ancient Greece was defined as hybrids.
- A behavior in which there is no control over their own impulses and shows an excessive pride.
- It is the hero who ends up subjugating the people and the innocent.
- Let’s go a little further in this concept.
Big men syndrome does not describe any psychological disorder, we are aware that we often face an excess of syndromes, concepts that try to label behaviors, in this abundance of definitions the goal is not to pathologize anything, it is simply to highlight a type of frequently observed behavior. Naming them helps us identify them.
The first time we found this name was in 2011, it was Dr. Susan Heitlem, a professor at Harvard University and author of several books on clinical psychology, who explained in an article the existence of a type of profile she frequently encountered: or a great man, a kind of narcissism born of success.
Similarly, authors such as Jim Collins, one of the most recognized management gurus, have also spoken of this idea in one of his books entitled How the Mighty Fall: And Why Some Companies Never Give in. Some companies never give up, Brazilian version). Thus, one thing much appreciated is the way organizations that manage to position themselves in a specific market end up falling alone by the mismanagement, weak leadership and narcissistic behavior of many of their leaders. Let’s look at the reasons and characteristics that define them. .
Most people succeed on their own merits: effort, talent, perseverance, and skills of their own; others, on the other hand, do so because of the fate or help of others; the latter factor is often associated with large human syndrome; these are profiles in which basic arrogance, when it reaches a position of power, increases and becomes a more damaging narcissism.
It is then that these people begin to verbalize ideas that their position is due to superior qualities, not luck, only that they are worthy of this sphere of power because they have their own distinctive characteristics to succeed. they take into account the needs of the environment and apply an uncompromising approach in which, far from learning, innovating or revitalizing a company’s machine, they keep it stagnant.
Great men’s syndrome appears in men and women who think they are better than others because they have certain attributes, that is, we are not only talking about entrepreneurs or leaders of an organization who pride themselves on their professional success, this psychological reality also defines that it feels superior to be more attractive, to be a better athlete, to be richer , have more social success, etc.
All of this comes at a cost. This behavior in which the person feels superior to having a quality that (in his opinion) lacks others translates into this clearly narcissistic form of relationship and communication, that is when they begin to apply behaviors that feed on the self I am better than you. And that’s why I’m right.
What you do is useless in relation to what I do, what you say or decide is irrelevant to what I say or do?The cost of such dynamics is clear: conflicts, bad social and emotional relationships, harmful environments, emotional exhaustion, stress in the people around you?
There are many people who mis handle success, there are many men and women who at some point enter a position of power and soon fall for excesses, mismanagement and narcissistic behaviors that erode the climate, relationships, the business project. on the other hand, resist and position your organization for its outstanding human and commercial value.
We also see too many people with who are impossible to live with because of their broader view of themselves, however, if the origin of this behavior is questioned, it is easy to focus on childhood and education received. There are children with emperor syndrome who end up developing big man syndrome or big woman syndrome in adulthood.
They are children deified by their parents and extremely licked. They are foreign children with little empathy, little ones who live on their throne of power, receiving attention and response to every desire, to every whim. When we create people without clear boundaries, it doesn’t take them long to become tall men or women. Narcissists, after all.
We will take this into account and avoid these actions in educating children to make our society a more livable and respectful space for all.