Love is a feeling that we all feel at some point, we all have different ways of loving, because each one expresses himself differently with the person we love, then there are different forms of love: couple love, brother love, son’s love, love of parents, for some parents, love for friends, love for what we do, and each of these loves can be blind love.
However, sometimes we can have boundless love, in which we make the other a flawless person, who we deeply admire, marvel at everything he does and become an indispensable person in our lives, so without that person we can feel that we would be nobody.
- So sometimes we can love a person so much that we can’t see what it’s really like.
- What we do is we create a kind of distorted reflection in our minds.
- It is blind love.
- A love in which we can come and idealize.
- The person we love and give everything for her.
- Forgetting about ourselves.
- Then we will focus on the blind love of relationships.
“Love is blind and has wings, blind for not seeing obstacles and with wings to overcome them?. – Jacinto Benavente-
Sometimes we don’t see what the person we’re really like. This blindness can be the product of idealization: we believe that the person we love is perfect and we may not even see its “human side”. We exaggerate her qualities, not valuing ours, saying she’s perfect. We feel good because we are looking at someone amazing and often inaccessible.
Sigmund Freud suggests that idealization consists of overestimation of someone, consciously or unconsciously; In addition, idealization is a defense mechanism, that is, a means that we use to appease what afflicts us, so we greatly appreciate the other to reduce our anxieties.
Through this defense mechanism we cover some of our needs, we stop feeling alone or unmotivated, because we see the other person as a complement, this love satisfies everything we needed. They may or may not have this love as a couple; Idealization is not about being physically with someone, but about how we overestimate the couple.
The idealization of the other, coupled with self-contempt, causes many people to give themselves too much in their relationships, this unbridled surrender may end up defeating the other, or when there is a wolf disguised as sheep, facilitating their perverse plan.
When we give everything we have to others, placing ourselves at the bottom of the hierarchy, we are completely unprotected, if we are lucky nothing will happen to us, but if we meet someone whose interests are less noble, we can have a bad experience. We don’t care who we are and what we want to be and do, because we live for each other. Even if the person has different interests than ours, we set aside what we want and do what he says or wants. .
This kind of love can be summed up in the phrase: “You are more important to me than I am,” that is, when your loved one is a price for us, there is an imbalance. The features that may appear as a result of this situation are:
All of this can happen when we place the other one above us. On the other hand, this act of implementation is often not a conscious decision, not even an interest. In many cases, the other person cannot say ‘No’ to applications. the other you can’t assume. Either because it’s too large, because they’re very frequent requests, or because they don’t have the resources to respond properly.
There can also be blind love when we are in love with love, what does that mean?When we have an idea in mind, love is the most wonderful thing that can exist and we want to have love no matter the answers to the most important questions. Under what circumstances?
When we fall in love, we may not worry about the person we have by our side, no matter how it is, because we take care of generating an overlay image that matches what we really want, that is, we are looking for a relationship at all costs because we believe it is the way to find love and to have what we so desire.
We are so busy meeting our expectations of what we dream of love that we cannot find ourselves. We are beginning to imagine, and what we are imagining seems fantastic. The fact that we relate to this fantasy often ends up fueling the fantasy itself, to the point where the bubble bursts and we open our eyes, perplexed and hurt.
In this case, we do not idealize the person, we idealize love, we have a great illusion of doing passionate things, to the point that our self-esteem is at stake, so, indirectly, the search for love in these cases, under this umbrella of thought, is a logical answer to preserve or improve the image we have of ourselves.
Now, when we don’t see the other person, we can miss the opportunity to have an authentic relationship, so we focus so much on our idea of love, we don’t see what the other wants and we don’t let ourselves be surprised at every moment, we don’t live the present, so we exalt passion, forget the other and yourself, the important thing is to realize this magical love , as comfortable as it is dangerous because it lacks reality.
Not all love is blind. Thus, some ideas for blindfolded love would be:
Love does not blind us, but we can go blind with love, that is, it is up to us to make a sale and omit much of what happens in the relationship, the person and we, then we are the ones who can change. the subject. To find out if you have blind love, connect with yourself and be honest: the answer is in you.
“Love does not hurt anyone, if you feel that love has hurt you, it is something different in you that has been hurt, not your quality of love. ” – Osho-