There is a saying that “beauty is in the eye of the one who looks. But what if the observer is absolutely blind? You can see a wonderful vase, but for many, this could be a real horror. Blind love?
So far, we have always believed that love is a precious thing that enriches our world and that may be true. However, there may be different ways of loving, and when we do it blindly, the consequences are generally not good, and that’s not something I’m saying, it’s the result published by a scientific study.
- The tests were carried out by a team from the University of London.
- The study has shown that there is blind love.
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- Depending on your data.
- The results of liking in this way can be very negative.
They also claim that these situations can occur both in the love of parents for their children and in the love of a couple, apparently both have very similar effects on our brains, however, in the case of romanticism the hypothalamus is activated, which leads to greater emotion.
Precisely in such excitement is the most negative consequence of blind love. Apparently, when we’re so deeply in love, we’re also immensely blind. This is associated with a number of consequences that we will discuss below.
The most negative consequences of blind love focus on social criticism. Our emotions are so strong that they obscure the light that it must illuminate the rest of things. We cannot see imperfections in our partner; thus, what they do well is reinterpreted, softened or directly excluded from memory by our minds.
In addition, our partner can hurt us, but since this is a harm against which we are anesthetized, we do not care, when we suffer from blind love, we are so focused on the other person that all kinds of negative emotions related to him are You can do whatever you want, because we are unable to maintain any objectivity towards this person: our mind is so fantastic that it finds justifications for everything.
If our son is the school bully, we justify his behavior as an act of defense; if he gets bad grades, it’s the teacher’s fault that he doesn’t explain; if you answer us there are many stress-generating activities, on the other hand, if our partner is lying it is because they wanted to protect us, if they do not want to be with us it is because they have a lot of work; if he was unfaithful it was because as a couple they didn’t give him what he needed, it’s the others, in blind love they’re always the others or us, never the person.
In short, when we fall into the clutches of blind romanticism, we put all our efforts into the couple, and we largely forget who we are, so we can suffer infidelities or other inconveniences, but the deep love we have in our brains will prevent us from acting accordingly.
Researchers from the University of London have scanned more than 20 brains. All were exposed to maternal love, but also to love as a couple. Although the effects and reactions were similar, there was a clear difference. The difference between the two types of situations is that couple love generates a state of euphoria. This is because the brain releases more oxytocin and dopamine, which are responsible for the mechanisms of pleasure.
With a brain totally attached to pleasure, a lover blindly idealizing his partner, thus born a kind of feeling of absolute adoration that prevents a minimum of objectivity.
In conclusion, we can say that love can be wonderful, however, this study again shows us a very useful maxim: everything in moderation is worth it, but excess or deficit usually has no positive consequences.
However, our brains cannot always detect blind love. So, if we fall into your nets, it won’t be easy to leave, as we have become insensitive to the criticisms of others and have absolutely surrendered to our partners. Besides, we don’t do it consciously, because we ignore this filter: for us, what we think is real.
Is there a solution to this potential problem? There is no magic formula, but time usually gives and removes reasons, besides, if you fall in love with a good person, there is no need to tell him that he does not want to hurt you and wishes you good luck. pain and anesthesia will not cover serious harm; anxiety occurs when that harm really exists, and blind love anesthetizes us in the face of suffering.
In other words, if we fall into the clutches of blind love, somehow we will be lost, but nothing in this world is eternal, so enjoy every second of your life and let time and your common sense put everything in place.