In life, repeatedly?
He had a job he didn’t like at all, a woman he avoided seeing and very little hope for the future. I thought he was old and that the life he was sitting in, though unpleasant and unhappy, protected him from the risks he might be exposed to if he tried to change it.
- Peter had had a car accident two months ago.
- His spine had been damaged and doctors had given him very little hope of walking again.
- At first he put all his efforts into it.
- But seeing that the improvement was not constant.
- He was discouraged.
- He had two very bad months.
- Gradually took refuge at home and lost social contact.
- One day.
- While shopping.
- He had a conversation with another man in a wheelchair.
- Quickly became friends and started dating.
- Or even joining an association that organized events designed specifically for people who couldn’t walk.
José was furious because someone else was given the promotion he had been waiting for several years, the anger lasted for several days and only began to pass when his wife took him by the hands and said: “This moment will not return, and the decision will not It will change, but can you change what will happen today, tomorrow and the next day?
One way or another, all these stories are about fulfillment, what we can change and what we have to face, because it has already happened.
Conformism is an attitude to life that, if chosen on the basis of reflection, can bring us much satisfaction, because it allows us to accept and appreciate what happens in our day to day and prevents us from living in the constant lament of what happens. we can’t change. . On the other hand, there is a risk that conformism will be a limitation in our lives, since we can accommodate and resign ourselves to what we can change and with which we are not satisfied.
How often are we confused?Com?How do I behave? I mean, many times I settle for it doesn’t mean it is, it’s just an attitude I choose often, but that doesn’t mean I’m conformist, however, if this is my most common attitude, it’s worth watching how I feel when I do this.
On certain occasions we feel good because we choose to “conform”, to accept and enjoy reality, it is time to adapt and adapt to the present moment, but on other occasions this attitude makes us suffer, by giving up our own interests, blocking ourselves, limiting ourselves and paralyzing ourselves on the path we wanted to take.
Do I decide?
It would be helpful to understand what often leads us to conformism and whether it is fear, relaxation, cowardice, avoid conflict or resignation, because it is only by discovering that we can overcome it. The feelings he carries and the circumstances around him define his nature: a help or a poison. Help for Joseph and poison for John.
When we overcome fear or resignation, and admit the possibility of having something better than we have, there will be no cause for harmful conformism. Then it will be time to reflect, and say if it is worth moving on “without conforming. “, to look for more paths, more options, more opportunities?Since nothing limits us.
And it is that only when I decide and feel good, “I will fulfill” because it will allow me to enjoy and accept reality, to better adapt to life at all stages.
Photo courtesy of Anton Zabielskyi