If you’ve decided to read this is because you belong to the large group of people who have had a broken heart at least once in a lifetime, you may also have started a new relationship with someone and have doubts about how you feel: Do I suffer the famous rebound effect or, what is so harmful, will you think I’m the nail to remove the old one?
You’re very clear: you’ve had a few good times and don’t want to spend unnecessarily again. What happens is that you know that love always begins with spontaneous enthusiasm, closed eyes and all possible hopes of happiness; and yet confusion reigns in your head, something is not right.
- Love is uncontrollable and unpredictable.
- So it can end.
- And it doesn’t always do as we would like.
- Yet when love begins.
- It has the merit of being special: the couple’s members are blind to each other.
- Full.
- With perfections and without a doubt.
The well-known rebound effect affects many of the new joints that form after the end of a long relationship: those that are usually born in the year following the end of a previous union, in addition, the rebound relationships are characterized by a short duration and instability between the people who compose them.
This is because the person has not gone through the necessary duel phase after a significant emotional loss, that is, he has not had time to assume what happened or heal such recent wounds and, on the contrary, avoid accepting the situation in search of a new experience that facilitates the process.
As Ernesto Pérez rightly pointed out, a nail does not remove another nail, as we are people with feelings, we need enough time to understand what is happening to us and give us the space that we need, in fact, every person who goes through our life has a place in our heart, and it is a mistake to try to replace it with others.
This is a mistake because one deceives or can deceive the other, even using it: bounce relationships are a mask that hides a false way to alleviate personal needs, basically what they do is put more weight on the burden that loss meant. We.
The consequences of the rebound effect therefore lie with this new love, but especially on ourselves: it is obligatory to let pain manifest itself to avoid further suffering and thus give us another chance to love.
If on the contrary you think you are the other person in this situation, be very careful, observe and know what you really feel, walk slowly and only desist when you are sure that the bond that has been created is healthy for both of you. : Keep in mind that he or she may not be well enough to decide what he or she still wants.
As noted, the rebound effect is just a way to move wrong because, if you have a recent vacuum after breaking up with someone, only you can ease discomfort and recover.
We must learn to live in solitude, especially when circumstances hit us hard. Hiding the pain and anguish of ourselves will not help us move forward, let alone feel that we depend on others to be happy.
Let go of the idea that you really are not able to love, overcome your past without erasing it and do not take any steps forward until you are ready to do so, so you will gradually regain balance and love.