Insecurity: This feeling that paralyzes us, fills us with doubts, makes us feel incapable of undertaking a new project, that turns us a thousand times before making a decision, that makes us think that we are always wrong and that we never do things. properly, which leads us to seek the approval of others, which makes us suspicious of our abilities and fear criticism from others.
Who has never felt insecure? Few people could escape this feeling, at some point in our lives we are all trapped by this emotion, the problem is when insecurity becomes a constant that conditions our existence.
- Insecurity is a trait that some experts associate with childhood experiences.
- It is assumed that at birth we all bring a survival kit.
- Full of the resources we will need to develop in life.
- But human beings are the most powerless species and need help.
- Others to grow and grow by themselves.
The key is in this development, and that’s when we start training our safety or insecurity, a full-competition relationship is established with those who help us grow, usually parents, and as we become more or less protected, in the future we will. be more or less insecure.
When we become dependent, we unconsciously let others decide for us, so when an insecure person comes out of their “protective bubble,” they are attacked by doubts and weaknesses and fears arise. Insecurity manifests a lack of self-esteem, fear of assumption of responsibilities, rejection of criticism from others, the need for others to approve everything we do, mistrust or lack of confidence in making satisfactory decisions.
On the contrary, when a person grows more independently, he generates more self-confidence, learns to make decisions for himself, and makes it safer. Safe people feel freer. Having security does not mean being free from risks or mistakes, but taking on the consequences, without the fears and concerns that afflict the most insecure people.
A good way to increase security is to work on ours, it is fundamental to build self-confidence, recognize one’s own skills and accept one’s own skills as we are. Love yourself without waiting for the judgment of others. To know, no matter what, we have the resources to deal with the situation, which will make us feel freer and therefore safer.