There are good parents, good parents and bright parents, but most want the best for their children, want them and want them to be very happy. Each family creates its own rules and limits on the education of its children, and this dynamic will be different for each of them. This dynamic can be changed at any time and it is up to adults to identify the need to review these rules.
The rules and limits set by parents must be firm, clear and direct, on the other hand, they should be reviewed and renewed if necessary, there is a basis that underpins this family dynamic that will vary at each stage of parenting and generate situations. that promote the psycho-emotional development of each family member. Unforeseen events often occur and it is the responsibility of parents to think and act with common sense.
- Augusto Cury.
- Psychiatrist.
- Therapist and writer.
- In his book “Brilliant Parents.
- Fascinating Teachers.
- ” gives us tips on how to educate happy.
- Proactive.
- Safe.
- And intelligent youth.
- Also.
- Look at seven habits of good parents and bright parents.
Children need parents who speak their language and can touch their hearts.
Good parents fulfill their children’s wishes to the extent of their resources: buy clothes, toys, organize birthdays, travel . . . Bright parents give something more precious, which you can’t buy with money: they give them their whole being, their history, their experiences, they share their emotions and their time. This habit of bright parents helps children develop their self-esteem, emotional intelligence, ability to cope with losses and frustrations, dialogue and listening.
Good parents take care of their children’s food so they are healthy, and bright parents also care about nurture their intelligence and emotions, being educated, having a good financial condition, having an excellent marital relationship, and offering good schools are not enough for the psychopath. -emotional health of children. We need to prepare the children to be, not to be. This will help develop leadership skills, security, courage, optimism, overcoming fear and preventing conflict.
Children do not learn to correct mistakes by repeating the same words and complaints: they only generate more aggression, frustration and detachment, we have to surprise our children, delight them and make them think, this helps to develop a critical consciousness, the ability to think before acting, fidelity, honesty, ability to question and social responsibility.
“We educate our children’s emotional intelligence with praise when they expect a rebuke, with words of encouragement when they expect an aggressive reaction, with a loving attitude when they expect an attack. Daniel Goleman?
Good parents prepare their children for victories, good grades, academic success, work, and social relationships. Bright parents are aware that failure is harder to handle and helps them not be afraid to make mistakes. This helps your children develop motivation, courage, patience, determination, ability to excel, create, and seize opportunities.
Many parents cannot tell their children about their fears, losses, and frustrations. Dialogue consists of expressing yourself, telling your experiences, sharing the secrets of your heart, going further. In dialogue bright parents are able to develop solidarity, companionship, the pleasure of living. , optimism and interpersonal intelligence.
Good parents inform their children, but they don’t tell stories, they don’t talk to them. Children don’t need as much authority, money, or power; they need their time, to hear stories full of emotion, to listen to their parents’ experiences. They need bright parents who develop their creativity, dexterity, schematic thinking, and ability to find solutions.
Good parents sometimes ignore their children’s mistakes; bright parents never give up, even when their children let them down, make mistakes, dislike them, and suffer from emotional disturbances; they believe in their children, they try to see what nobody sees, they are seeders of ideas and not authoritarian. Bright parents develop in their children respect for life, hope, motivation, determination, the ability to challenge themselves, to overcome obstacles and failures.
Parents often lose confidence in themselves and believe they have failed as parents. But we must understand that fatherhood is a great responsibility. Based on love and simplicity, we can learn educational strategies, read some educational theories, Piaget and Vigotsky’s ideas, Freud’s psychoanalysis, Gardner’s multiple intelligences and Plato’s philosophy. In addition to this knowledge, we must rejoice, get excited, otherwise no study will be valid or applicable.
The most important thing is to have a big impact on the emotional and rational world of our children, to be creative and sincere; you must move the children and touch their hearts.