There is the misconception that building walls when one suffers is the best thing you can do to protect yourself from new pain, especially since building bridges that promote the start of other relationships seems very risky. “I’ve already suffered a lot,” we said, and created a series of defenses at the gates of our hearts.
The truth is that, today, spending life with shield and spear is not only simpler than being vulnerable, but also more convenient, in this way you avoid disappointments, unnecessary falls and few or no deserved movement, however, don’t you think?Is it time to put aside grudges, precautions and fears?
- You may not think they laughed enough at you and your point is understandable.
- But I must say that we would not be full people if we did not intend to meet new people.
- To have different experiences.
- And to go through cycles that begin and arrive to complete these stages at the same time.
If we fail and get hurt, the first reaction to the acceptance process is self-defense. We ended the story with this particular person and closed any chance of emotion that could shake our lives: “They won’t hurt me anymore because I won I don’t give anyone a chance to do that. “
Obviously we think this defense system is perfect because nothing and no one can steal it. We put on heavy armor, without realizing that we are depriving our skin of contact with air. Not knowing that we are really at serious risk of infecting our wounds.
That is, let us not deceive ourselves: the damage is one-way, overprotection prevents us from enjoying life and generates a state of constant vigilance in our mind that denies the possibility of being swept away by the tide, the construction of walls becomes an invisible cross that follows us and haunts us, makes us think that everything that exists in the sea are sharks.
As much as you try to believe that it is best to build a huge castle built especially for war, you are wrong: we would be nothing if we did not allow ourselves to have emotional contact with others. We were not able to build bridges or accept forgiveness and have the virtue of forgiving. Not for others, but for someone special: you. Think carefully, what good is forgiveness?
You deserve the privilege of forgiving the mistakes others have made, because in doing so, you can get rid of burdens that should no longer mean anything to you. Have new goals, new challenges, meet new people, try more. Why don’t you let this happen?
To some extent, it can be said that the heart has its own spaces and it is necessary to know how to manage them well: the obstacles that prevent light from illuminating the main rooms, if you succeed you will find inner peace you seek and, unknowingly, absorb time and express yourself, without succumbing to the ghosts of the past.
Our title said it’s better to build bridges than build walls, but we haven’t explained what it means to build a bridge yet. In the Middle Ages, some fortresses used various “technological aids”, such as drawbridges, which were as effective defensive elements as pits: on the one hand, the elevation of them served to protect the passage of enemies and on the other, privileged maritime traffic and entrance to the castle.
If we apply this metaphor to life, we will see that it is very difficult to cast this bridge to allow or not to enter the unknown when it has recently taken so hard to expel the enemy from our hearts, however, to defer this attitude for a while. Time can isolate us from the outside world, plunge into insecurities and gradually erase our vitality.
Like everything else, the hardest thing to achieve seems to complement us more and generate a great rush of adrenaline, so if you think you need to page, create other memories or really feel that the wound has healed: why not stop building?walls and are you excited to build bridges?