Today, harassment becomes more visible through courageous voices, non-passive looks, and victims of this great social problem who understand that people who are bullied don’t have to feel embarrassed or stigmatized.
It is very difficult to combat harassment in a socioeconomic framework that promotes dysfunctional and harmful values: values that are a perfect alibi for the stalker. Check out the sports, entertainment, TV, video games or series section to understand why this The problem is happening and has become chronic in our society, but there’s already a sign that this is changing: people are arguing about it.
- The persecutor is justified by certain qualities that resemble success and charisma; the harassed person is stigmatized and isolated by his particularity.
- Or simply because he is a scapegoat that exempts others from aggression.
Viewers, who are the majority, refuse to engage in a conflict they do not feel as their own because society has taught them that it is not “profitable”; “pragmatic” and even counterproductive.
If we want bullying to be detected and corrected, we cannot remain passive, either as mere viewers or as recipients of complaints for all kinds of harassment. Harassment and abuse go far beyond hitting or provoking.
Sometimes the aggressor is a true reflection of what is fostered in our society: the rejection of excellence, the annulment of diversity and the exclusion of originality. A vulnerable, un privileged target is chosen. Moreover, it is not only the goal of anger, but the obvious consequence of the failure of all around him who have not realized what is happening.
Bullying, as we understand it today, has been taboo for years. New psychology and pedagogy foster competition.
They don’t teach children other realities, let alone empathy, which could prevent many cases of harassment. It is not a question of painting a very dark reality, it is to realize that the advancement of resources does not go hand in hand with great educational achievements. There’s no point in getting a 10 on your homework if you have a 0 in education.
If we don’t want harassment, if we want equality and education, we can achieve all of that. An indispensable condition to achieve a cordial and convenient reality is to work every day. There is no magic wand: school and society must work together. We need to raise awareness and not act indifferently.
We need to be able to detect what different types of bullying have in common, but they can be camouflaged between new behaviors, including parents, teachers, and students. serious discipline issues in the classroom.
There is confusion between the roles and desires of many modern parents, on the one hand, they want their children to spend more time doing activities outside the home, on the other hand, they want to have absolute authority over all the professionals who work with their parents. Children.
This affects education in general, but especially the problem of bullying. How can teachers or psychologists report an abuse situation when their authority and skills are systematically questioned by parents and students themselves?
At present, there is some distortion in the development of many school-age children, making it difficult to detect cases of bullying, and activities such as celebrations and anniversaries, which should all be involved, are increasingly being introduced into school, but some children are excluded. by decision of the parents of other students.
Adult fights are designed for a common space, some parents are spectators, but they refuse to take sides. Teachers lack reliable supports and data to change the dynamics of the situation, in turn, children learn that behaviors such as exclusion are normal, with this attitude parents encourage bullying of children in the classroom.
Many adults behave like children: they systematically challenge teachers and deny any bad behavior of their children, stigmatize the behavior of other children, amplify and encourage any fight between two children rather than opt for dialogue, it is also silent harassment, which one does not speak.
We need to detect this new type of harassment in advance; just because it’s muted doesn’t mean it causes less discomfort. We cannot turn our children into broken dolls of our frustrations, placing labels that can cause the well-known “Pygmalion effect” in adults who suffer from them.
Let your children make mistakes and successes before making a judgment about their behavior and personality that conditions others in the way they relate to them. We cannot become mere spectators, but above all, we cannot encourage bullying in children with our attitudes.